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Without a doubt, one of the keys to deepening our intimate connection with our partner is through the art of sensual touch. And it all begins with consciousness.
Science has shown us that people actually "starve to death", when they are void of human touch for long periods of time. During an interview with author Barbara Keesling, she explained that millions of hormones are released throughout the body just through the simple act of a touch, stroke, or hug. This sensual nourishment is important for our physical, emotional and psychological well being.
In relationship coaching, I have seen couples separate emotionally from each other when the relationship has just a minimal amount of sensual touch. And the converse is true as well. Healthy couples all have one thing in common, the conscious desire and daily follow through of the art of sensual touch.
Look at these simple yet effective examples:
...holding hands everywhere possible...
....stroking your lovers hair before bed...
...kissing, touching, and yes sucking on their toes...
Here's an exercise for you:
Lay naked next to your lover facing them, and run your fingers down the middle of their back. Go to the buttocks area, and allow your finger to run softly down the middle, underneath, and barely touch their genital area.
Continue up the front of their body, stomach, chest, to their lips, where you circle their lips with your finger. Repeat, and flow in the art of sensual touch.
Slow down. Deepen your intimate connection with your partner through the act of sensual touch.
Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com
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Thursday, September 3, 2009
Thursday, August 6, 2009
The Erotic Kiss: A Lost Art
Do you remember when you first started dating, the passion you put into kissing, and even quite possible the erotic kiss? For many, it was called "making out", and these kissing sessions could literally last for hours. Your passion was so intense, so driven, that it wasn't just a kiss, it was a passionate kiss. Sensual. Yes, even erotic.
Over the years I have worked with many couples who complain about a staleness that has permeated their relationship.A loss of passion. And their question is always centered around ideas to bring that initial passion back.
To be quite honest, alot of the chaos and lack of passion in relationships can usually be traced to unresolved resentments. Usually both partners in a relationship where the passion has fizzled are harboring resentments that have built up over the years. If these issues aren't resolved, all of the sensual techniques in the world will not be able to save the relationship. The foundation has to be rebuilt, and then the passion may have a chance to return to it's initial glory.
For other couples who truly have minimal if any resentments, one of the quickest ways to bring the passion back is to begin to center their attention on the area it all started in when they first met: the kiss. The passionate, or erotic kiss has become a lost art with many couples who have been together for as short as two years.
Ask yourself honestly this question: Do we put as much energy , time and passion into our kiss as we did when we first met? The reason this is so crucial is because of the fact that the kiss, a slow passionate kiss , releases a barrage of hormones that elicits a bonding, passion and yes even a lust for our partner. The softness of our lips connecting, followed by our tongues, is truly one of the most erotic ways we can connect with another person. Take this away, and intimacy can become robotic in nature.
Talk with your partner about bringing back the art of kissing in your relationship if it has taken a back seat over the months or years you have been together. Then, begin slowly to explore each other with slow, focused and passionate kisses once again. Take your time and kiss each others cheeks, forehead, nose and neck. Slowly suck on each others lower lip, and savor the build up of hormones as you flash back to early on in your relationship.
Take your kiss then, and slowly go down their body, work around the genitals with erotic kisses, but do not actually kiss this area. Allow the tension to build as you kiss near, but not on, the genitals themselves. Work your way back up their body, until you've reached their lips once again. By now, you should be able to see the power of the erotic kiss, feel it's electricity, and bring that beautiful passion back to an all time high.
Slow down, and enjoy the ecstasy of the erotic kiss.
Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com
Over the years I have worked with many couples who complain about a staleness that has permeated their relationship.A loss of passion. And their question is always centered around ideas to bring that initial passion back.
To be quite honest, alot of the chaos and lack of passion in relationships can usually be traced to unresolved resentments. Usually both partners in a relationship where the passion has fizzled are harboring resentments that have built up over the years. If these issues aren't resolved, all of the sensual techniques in the world will not be able to save the relationship. The foundation has to be rebuilt, and then the passion may have a chance to return to it's initial glory.
For other couples who truly have minimal if any resentments, one of the quickest ways to bring the passion back is to begin to center their attention on the area it all started in when they first met: the kiss. The passionate, or erotic kiss has become a lost art with many couples who have been together for as short as two years.
Ask yourself honestly this question: Do we put as much energy , time and passion into our kiss as we did when we first met? The reason this is so crucial is because of the fact that the kiss, a slow passionate kiss , releases a barrage of hormones that elicits a bonding, passion and yes even a lust for our partner. The softness of our lips connecting, followed by our tongues, is truly one of the most erotic ways we can connect with another person. Take this away, and intimacy can become robotic in nature.
Talk with your partner about bringing back the art of kissing in your relationship if it has taken a back seat over the months or years you have been together. Then, begin slowly to explore each other with slow, focused and passionate kisses once again. Take your time and kiss each others cheeks, forehead, nose and neck. Slowly suck on each others lower lip, and savor the build up of hormones as you flash back to early on in your relationship.
Take your kiss then, and slowly go down their body, work around the genitals with erotic kisses, but do not actually kiss this area. Allow the tension to build as you kiss near, but not on, the genitals themselves. Work your way back up their body, until you've reached their lips once again. By now, you should be able to see the power of the erotic kiss, feel it's electricity, and bring that beautiful passion back to an all time high.
Slow down, and enjoy the ecstasy of the erotic kiss.
Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com
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