Showing posts with label excuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label excuse. Show all posts

Friday, August 12, 2011

Are we using too many excuses in life?

A woman sat in front of me explaining that it is never her "intention" to let her husband down.

Are we, as a nation, making too many excuses in life, instead of being responsible for our own growth?

Many of us want to lean on excuses, as a way to rationalize behavior that needs to be changed.

Enjoy the short video here to see what I mean.


Slow down, and use today as a day of change, to get more out of life.

Love, David http://www.davidessel.com


Tuesday, July 27, 2010

"IT'S ALL GOOD???" Please, let's stop the insanity

"It's all good", she said as she sat across from me, trying to deflect the question about her husbands infidelity.

I have heard this phrase used thousands of times in my coaching work, and ask my clients to refrain using it. And here's why.



Our words, either move us forward in life, or hold us back.
Slow down, think, love.

Love, peace, david http://www.davidessel.com

Monday, January 26, 2009

"Not Enough Time in a Day?".. An Illusion

The reality behind most of our statements that we do not have enough time in the day to do all that we want to do is as far from the reality as you could possibly imagine. As a matter of fact, this statement is actually an illusion.

By making this statement, we are actually giving ourselves a way out of having to be creative ...creative with our time management. I mean after all, if we have an excuse, like "I don't have enough time", why change? Why ask for help?

A former client of mine came to me with this often used excuse as to the reason she was not happy in her life. " As a single mom working 60 hours a week, there's no way that I will ever have enough time for me...to do anything that's fun until the girls are 18 and out of the door."

You can imagine the response she gave me when I told her that what she was saying was an illusion, a handy one at that.

She had spent so much time telling people and herself that she had no time, that she actually believed her own words!

When we did a time recall sheet, and found out that she actually had several hours of free time that she wasted each nite on reality TV shows, her whole life began to change.

These hours soon became her time to play piano, something she had loved doing for years, but stopped after her divorce. just this one change proved to her that if she really wanted to prioritize her time, she could live a fabulous life, one that started today, not when her little girls we grown and gone.

Lack of time is an illusion, a game we play, and to our own detriment.

Slow down, and create the time you need now to find the joy that might be missing from your life.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com www.lifecoachuniverse.com