David Essel Alive: Guests, June 16, Positive Radio

"Guests this week on "David Essel Alive! America's Positive Radio Show" ... Celebrating 21 years in talk radio.... Saturdays 6-9pm est, 3-6pm pst.....XM Radio CH 168.....or streaming FREE at www.davidessel.com ...Here we go!:

.....Caroline Cederquist M.D.- Author: "Helping Your Overweight Child"....Millions of Americans and their children are overweight. As featured on Dr. Phil, Dr. Caroline will share the reasons behind weight gain for children, and what percentage of these reasons are emotional vs physical. Success stories galore, make sure your friends with children tune in too!

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......Loral Langemeier- Author: "Yes! Energy- The Equation To Do Less, Make More"..... NY Times best-selling author, has helped thousands of people to finally become successful financially. Learn how to generate cash and build wealth at the same time.

www.yesenergybook.com

.....Bill Philips- Author of #1 Best Selling book "Body-For-Life".... This book, and his body transformation contests have helped millions of people to radically change their bodies and their lives at the same time! At the same time, he has had to overcome health obstacles in his own life to keep his motivation flowing.

www.transformation.com

.....Diamond Dallas Page- Founder of "DDP YOGA" and former "WWE Superstar"....Wait a minute, is this "The Diamond Dallas Page???...The massive wrestler???...doing Yoga???..... He created a YOGA inspired workout for people who like him wouldn't be caught DEAD doing yoga, with an upcoming retreat for his fans in Mexico.

Success story by Arthur Boorman - http://youtu.be/suTPns5cy_Q

http://ddpyoga.com

....YES!!....A Fathers Day Thank You....Ed Essel, the very Ed Essel who fathered the man hosting this very show, David, will join his son on air to talk about being a dad. He's still trying to figure out how he survived David's childhood...=)...and reach his young age of 84.

April O'Leary

"David Essel Alive!" Guest Producer

www.davidessel.com

239-777-3241 April cell

941-266-7676 David cell

"David is the radiant soul of radio. He is brilliant, insightful and easy to listen to. David makes a real difference in his listeners' lives." ~Mark Victor Hansen, Chicken Soup for the Soul

Relationships, Love and Religion: Time to talk

As the couple sat before me, I could see their smiles turn inward as we began to discuss their relationship issues concerning religion. Yes, it was time to talk about the pink elephant sitting in the living room that no one wanted to notice.

Candace was a liberal Buddhist, as she would say, and Mark was a conservative Christian. They were deeply in love they said, had been dating for 8 months, and found their way into my office when their discussion about marriage and children always ended with an argument over religion. Candace believed in many different paths to create a connection with the inner divine, while Mark saw one path to salvation, as it is stated in the bible that he referred to often.

After 45 minutes of a somewhat heated discussion, they realized that it would take more than love to make their relationship work. When it comes to topics that can derail any relationship, religion, politics and money usually lead the list. If a couple decides to discuss their differences head on, and not hide from them for months at a time as these two had, the resentments about their different opinions will be lessened.

Unfortunately in this case, they both had major resentments against each other, and one of the reasons Candace felt so slighted was that Mark said during our session, that he would never raise their children in any other way then the Christian path. This strong statement had never been shared with her before. She said if she would have known this months ago, she may have seen that the challenge for her beliefs was too great to bear, and would have moved on.

In this situation, the greatest problem couples face is their desire to not rock the boat, to keep a distance from the topics that cause an initial separation. As time goes by, the problem becomes bigger because of the resentments behind the problem on each side.

After working with this couple for 4 weeks, Mark decided to end the relationship, as he saw more clearly over time that his beliefs could not be compromised. We worked as a team to make sure that everyone agreed that no one was right here, that no one was wrong, and that their opposite beliefs were to be respected.

They both learned a very hard and painful lesson about the early stages of love, and how we sabotage the chances of it flourishing when we do not commit to being honest about our differences from the beginning.

Mark also came to realize the hard way that he truly needed to be looking for a woman who shared his own religious beliefs only, and that dating anyone from outside of these beliefs would lead to heartache and frustration.

Slow down in any stage of a relationship to ensure that the love you have is real, and that you can openly and honestly discuss the differences of opinion that you may have in your current relationship regarding religion, marriage, love and children. .

Love alone will never be enough to keep you in a healthy relationship together.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Everyone is Our Teacher in Love, Yes, Everyone

At the end of a seminar I taught on leadership at a major university, one of the participants came up to question me on the statement that "everyone we meet is a teacher for us in life." It's an important concept that not only leaders need to master, but that all of us need to be more conscious about.

"My last boyfriend did not teach me a thing, I can't agree with that statement, unless you mean that he maybe taught me how to argue more. "

"What was your role in the arguments" I asked.

"I had no role, he would just argue to argue. For over a year, the same old thing", she replied.

At the end of our 20 minute conversation, she saw that he was trying to teach her a very valid lesson: there is a time to leave a relationship that is not working, or at least go and get the help we need if one is in turmoil.

Everyone , especially in romantic relationships that do not work, is trying to help us get to the next level of love. They are trying to get us to pick up "our game", to play at a higher level of love. There is a divine reason for all relationships, and it is up to us to figure out the reason so that we can become more awakened, and less resentful.

If I look at all of my love relationships that did not work, I can see the absolute beauty that each of these magnificent beings brought into my life. Some of the lessons I honestly did not want to learn, because it meant that I had to change. Some were here to help me strengthen my communication skills, while others pushed my buttons about religion, so that I could work on showing a deeper level of compassion for those who were on a different path than my own.

Others were in my life to help me to become more flexible, the teaching was to help me release the "my way was the best way" mentality. And others were definitely brought into my life to help me practice the art of listening without giving my advice, unless I was asked for it. A difficult lesson for me indeed! And last, there were those that were asking me to prove that I desired the deepest of love, when boundaries were crossed and I had to walk away.

The homeless are another great set of teachers that I have written about here before. In other words, our real teachers in life may be those who we feel most uncomfortable with. Isn't that interesting?

Former lovers, children, former bosses, the homeless....all great teachers in life about love.

Slow down and send a mental note of gratitude for all of your past, and current teachers.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

The Joy of Sex ...Now

As I listen to my clients concerns on a weekly basis, there seems to be an overwhelming loss of connection sexually with many of them and their partners.

Some blame the stress of the economy, others the rising responsibilities of family, school, and the juggling of other activities.

It concerns me greatly when I see a trend like this, as sex, sensuality and the deep intimacy that arises from this between two people is one of the greatest gifts relationships offer.

We hold, kiss, stroke and join in sexual union as to experience the divine and the human in one beautiful dance.

So when this is gone, or diminishes greatly, what are we left with???

Instead of answering that question, I'd rather have you focus on what we have, how deep our relationships can go...when we make sure that physical intimacy of all types.... from the holding of hands in public, to the text just to say hi, to a slow kiss, gazing in your lovers eyes, to the joining, releasing, and then joining again in sexual union ...stays a priority in your life right now.

Slow down.

Create a deeper bond regardless of what's going on in your outer world, by committing today to keep your inner world fulfilled through the regular act of sexual intimacy.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

"Not Enough Time in a Day?".. An Illusion

The reality behind most of our statements that we do not have enough time in the day to do all that we want to do is as far from the reality as you could possibly imagine. As a matter of fact, this statement is actually an illusion.

By making this statement, we are actually giving ourselves a way out of having to be creative ...creative with our time management. I mean after all, if we have an excuse, like "I don't have enough time", why change? Why ask for help?

A former client of mine came to me with this often used excuse as to the reason she was not happy in her life. " As a single mom working 60 hours a week, there's no way that I will ever have enough time for me...to do anything that's fun until the girls are 18 and out of the door."

You can imagine the response she gave me when I told her that what she was saying was an illusion, a handy one at that.

She had spent so much time telling people and herself that she had no time, that she actually believed her own words!

When we did a time recall sheet, and found out that she actually had several hours of free time that she wasted each nite on reality TV shows, her whole life began to change.

These hours soon became her time to play piano, something she had loved doing for years, but stopped after her divorce. just this one change proved to her that if she really wanted to prioritize her time, she could live a fabulous life, one that started today, not when her little girls we grown and gone.

Lack of time is an illusion, a game we play, and to our own detriment.

Slow down, and create the time you need now to find the joy that might be missing from your life.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com www.lifecoachuniverse.com

Your "Someday" is today...Success is now

So many people come to me with the same statements regarding success..."someday I'm going to really get into shape...quit smoking...save more money..find the love of my life...deepen my connection with God...create a better relationship with my children..." And the lists go on.

The illusion that we carry is our reality. And for most of us, all of the statements above are illusions, because we'll never, ever do them.

If you want success, love, money, freedom from addiction, God....Go after these goals RIGHT NOW! Your someday is either today, or trust me....never.

After 24 years in the business of helping others, and myself, become more successful, happier, and filled with peace, I know that if you do nothing about your desires to change today, there is a dam good chance you will do nothing tomorrow as well.

Success comes from doing, not simply planning.

So, make the call, get the help you need.

Slow down for success....and act...today.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

www.lifecoachuniverse.com