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Yes these are the 3 keys to amazing, great sex.
Yet, these may not sound like the normal keys that your average professional would discuss, but after 30 years of helping people create amazing sexual relationships, we have found that the normal stuff we discuss may not make that big of a difference in creating deep love.
Enjoy the short video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-a8sbNrkD6c
If we can help you in your intimate relationship, contact us at www.davidessel.com
Showing posts with label resentment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label resentment. Show all posts
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Are you sexually compatible? What do you do if not? From our XM radio show.
We fall in love, then months down the road there is what seems to be a decrease in our sexual compatibility with our partner.
How and why does this happen?
A caller explains her frustration with her boyfriend who at first was highly affectionate and sexual, more than meeting her needs, but recently she has to almost beg him to have sex! She had explained from the very beginning what her desires physically, emotionally were, and he seemed to be excited at all she wanted.
She is exhausted, and wondered if it was worth staying in the relationship.
Of course it is!.....was my reply.
But, in order for things to change, we have to see why he is pulling away, could it be a series of resentments on his part? Did he get "the prize" and now does not feel the need to please her as he did in the beginning?
We have answers, on this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLM6zRjJdhs
Try, try, try to work it out via open and honest conversation.
In our work, most couples can reconnect so everyone's needs are being met.
For 25 years we have helped singles and couples create deep love through our workshops and 1 on 1 sessions, and we would love to do the same for you. Contact us today at www.davidessel.com or 941.266.7676.
We are ready to help!
How and why does this happen?
A caller explains her frustration with her boyfriend who at first was highly affectionate and sexual, more than meeting her needs, but recently she has to almost beg him to have sex! She had explained from the very beginning what her desires physically, emotionally were, and he seemed to be excited at all she wanted.
She is exhausted, and wondered if it was worth staying in the relationship.
Of course it is!.....was my reply.
But, in order for things to change, we have to see why he is pulling away, could it be a series of resentments on his part? Did he get "the prize" and now does not feel the need to please her as he did in the beginning?
We have answers, on this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLM6zRjJdhs
Try, try, try to work it out via open and honest conversation.
In our work, most couples can reconnect so everyone's needs are being met.
For 25 years we have helped singles and couples create deep love through our workshops and 1 on 1 sessions, and we would love to do the same for you. Contact us today at www.davidessel.com or 941.266.7676.
We are ready to help!
Thursday, July 21, 2011
We TEACH others, how to TREAT us.
Are you constantly being held up in your daily schedule by a friend or partner who is always late? Do you feel that important people in your life have little respect for your thoughts or beliefs?
Did you know that you have actually taught them that it is OK to disrespect you?
Watch this short video to see what I mean.
Slow down, the ball is in your court.
Love, david http://www.davidessel.com
Monday, January 3, 2011
Where did our love go? The blocks to love.
So many couples that I have worked with over the past 25 years, have sat in front of me perplexed, asking, "Where did our love go?
Some have been together just a few months, others years, but all in the same predicament.
Watch as we discuss one of the major blocks to long term love, in this short video.
This is part 2, of a 4 part video series. To view the other video's, please see http://www.youtube.com/superslowdown
Love, david http://www.davidessel.com
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Advanced Prayers for Others, May Surprise You
An advanced form of prayers for others, does not always come in the way we might expect, and could actually surprise you.
The most challenging form of prayer though, could also be the kind that frees you from bondage, the bondage of the small ego.
Watch this short video, to see what we are referring to.
Slow down, use this type of prayer daily, and share it with others.
Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com
Monday, April 19, 2010
Should we be friends with former lovers?
My client sits before me, quite proud of the fact that she has been deleting the emails from a former lover who has been reaching out as a friend to her. The relationship ended 3 years ago, and as a way to punish him, she has chosen to ignore him.
"He's the one who ended the relationship, so if he thinks I'm going to be a friend now, he's got another thing coming."
Do you agree with her stance?
Watch this brief video, and see how you feel.
If we really look at the motivation behind our actions, we can change all that we are, into love.
Love, slow down, share this video so that we can help others as well.
Peace, david www.davidessel.com
Saturday, March 20, 2010
Two Types of Forgiveness: Yes, it is Possible!
A client walked in recently wanting to find a deeper sense of peace, yet unwillingly to forgive his wife who had cheated on him, ten years earlier. He was followed by a woman who also desired peace, but did not want to talk about her father at all, and how she might find the peace she desired by releasing the stranglehold that she had on him, and her past.
Forgiveness, as many say, is the pathway to peace. But what many people do not realize, is that there are two types of forgiveness.
Watch this short video to see what I mean.
Slow down, decide today to begin the process of forgiving EVERYONE who you hold any sort of resentment or grudge against.
Then, pass this on to as many people as you can. We can help to change the world today.
Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com
Monday, December 14, 2009
Dealing with Lost Love over the Holidays
While it is very challenging to deal with the loss of a love relationship at any time of year, handling this tragedy during the holidays can be especially painful.
The client from my last blog, who felt so overwhelmed with the many losses in her life recently, sent this email in with permission to print it.
"Yes, you wrote perfectly in your column exactly the state I am in: ovewhelmed. after our last session, I began writing and found that the pain that is most deep right now is over the loss of my love relationship of 3 years. As the holidays approach, it deeply saddens me that i will not have my lover with me. His gifts need to be returned, and the trip we planned is now cancelled. You asked me to write out the role I played in the demise of this love, and at first i thought you were crazy!
I could rationalize my anger at him, for he ended up our last nite together in a deeply crushing arguement, kicking me out of his house at 2am, from which i had to then drive 5 hours to get back to my house. so it's been easy to be mad, and not go deeper.
But in my writing, I saw that I had not been honest with him over the years about my feelings. Each week, we'd go to his church which i did not enjoy, but continued going "for love", which I see now was a mistake as I must have held onto resentments, yet never dealt with them. It would had been better to express this, and go with him maybe once a month.
Each weekend we were together, we went to his parents for lunch, which again was overkill for me. As an only child, he obviously got whatever he wanted , and expected me to go with him, as that's just the way it was. Again, I know now I held a resentment against him, as I got tired of this very fast. I should have said i'll go once in a while with him, and filled that time doing other activities I missed doing.
It's amazing now that I find out that I'm really quite upset with myself, for not setting my own boundaries, instead just going along even if it did not feel right for me. I know in love we all must be flexible, but we also must be willing to have someone be upset with us if our beliefs are not the same.
I think ultimately, i did all of these things as I so wanted our relationship to last. I was afraid of being rejected, bottom line.
Now I must deal with this loss during the most festive time of the year. seeing my role in it now, how I did not discuss my true feelings, might make my healing a little easier, and now I will find maybe other people to help over the holidays.
Thank you so much for all of your help, your writing exercises have helped me seee the truth, and forgive myself and him a little more. "
Slow down, and be the love you already are.
Love, peace, David www.davidessel.com
The client from my last blog, who felt so overwhelmed with the many losses in her life recently, sent this email in with permission to print it.
"Yes, you wrote perfectly in your column exactly the state I am in: ovewhelmed. after our last session, I began writing and found that the pain that is most deep right now is over the loss of my love relationship of 3 years. As the holidays approach, it deeply saddens me that i will not have my lover with me. His gifts need to be returned, and the trip we planned is now cancelled. You asked me to write out the role I played in the demise of this love, and at first i thought you were crazy!
I could rationalize my anger at him, for he ended up our last nite together in a deeply crushing arguement, kicking me out of his house at 2am, from which i had to then drive 5 hours to get back to my house. so it's been easy to be mad, and not go deeper.
But in my writing, I saw that I had not been honest with him over the years about my feelings. Each week, we'd go to his church which i did not enjoy, but continued going "for love", which I see now was a mistake as I must have held onto resentments, yet never dealt with them. It would had been better to express this, and go with him maybe once a month.
Each weekend we were together, we went to his parents for lunch, which again was overkill for me. As an only child, he obviously got whatever he wanted , and expected me to go with him, as that's just the way it was. Again, I know now I held a resentment against him, as I got tired of this very fast. I should have said i'll go once in a while with him, and filled that time doing other activities I missed doing.
It's amazing now that I find out that I'm really quite upset with myself, for not setting my own boundaries, instead just going along even if it did not feel right for me. I know in love we all must be flexible, but we also must be willing to have someone be upset with us if our beliefs are not the same.
I think ultimately, i did all of these things as I so wanted our relationship to last. I was afraid of being rejected, bottom line.
Now I must deal with this loss during the most festive time of the year. seeing my role in it now, how I did not discuss my true feelings, might make my healing a little easier, and now I will find maybe other people to help over the holidays.
Thank you so much for all of your help, your writing exercises have helped me seee the truth, and forgive myself and him a little more. "
Slow down, and be the love you already are.
Love, peace, David www.davidessel.com
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