Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label forgiveness. Show all posts

Monday, December 28, 2015

Forgiveness? We've Been Taught All Wrong!

 Forgiveness? We've Been Taught All Wrong!



We've been told to turn the other cheek.  Just forgive them because it's the right thing to do.  It never works long term!

But the system we teach in this super short video does.  Start out the New Year free of resentments. 

Monday, December 16, 2013

Dave Pelzer, A child called it. From child abuse to forgiveness.

One of the most amazing interviews that I have ever done was with author Dave Pelzer.

Over the years, having him back on my national radio shows several times, it simply amazed me that he could forgive a parent who had abused him so horrifically.

Watch this brief video, to see what I mean. Truly amazing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg8-nbjSK_I

Forgiveness. everyone talks about the importance of it, yet few if us do it.

Maybe Dave can be the inspiration, for us to put an end to the resentments we carry in life.

Love, david    www.davidessel.com

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

David Essel Alive: Guests, May 12th, Positive Radio

"Our guests this week, for "David Essel Alive! Positive Talk Radio" ...... Heard every Saturday on XM CH. 168......for their 12 million subscribers, , also streaming FREE worldwide at www.davidessel.com . Celebrating 21 years in talk radio:


........John Biffar, Movie Producer: "Virgin Mary Documentary" .........John's passion for spreading hope, and faith, has led him to this new venture, as he traveled the world interviewing people who have been visited by, or have seen visions of the Blessed Mother. How were their lives changed? How does this affect us, and how we deal with life?
......Carrie Kerskie, Private Investigator: Author- "Your Public Identity: Because Nothing Is Private Anymore" What would you do, if you woke up one day and found out you owed credit card companies thousands and thousands of dollars, that you never charged? Or, you were denied a Visa because one had already been issued, to someone else , claiming to be you? How do we protect ourselves, so this does not happen?


.....Immaculee Ilibagiza: Best Selling Author- "Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust" .....One of the most amazing, compelling stories of faith that you will ever hear, as this woman suffered the brutal loss of her family, while huddled for 91 days in a bathroom. Narrowly escaping her own death, she lives to tell of her recovery, and even forgiveness, for the people who killed her family.


.........Pat Essel, David's MOM!!!.... In honor of Mother's Day, for the first time in David's 21 year career in talk radio, his mom will be on the air sharing her stories about love, faith, and how the heck she lived through David's teen age years! =)



"David Essel Alive! Positive Talk Radio" ...... Heard every Saturday on XM CH. 168......for their 12 million subscribers, , also streaming FREE worldwide at www.davidessel.com . Celebrating 21 years in talk radio:




April O'Leary
"David Essel Alive!" Guest Producer
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941-266-7676 David cell

"David is the radiant soul of radio. He is brilliant, insightful and easy to listen to. David makes a real difference in his listeners' lives." ~Mark Victor Hansen, Chicken Soup for the Soul

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

From Incest to Forgiveness :The Rena Romano Story

Recently on my XM radio show, I had the chance to interview an amazing woman who has found a way out of the depth and despair of incest, into the light of forgiveness.

Rena Romano, author of "His Puppet No More", has appeared on the OPRAH show as well, and gives hope to the millions of people from around the world who suffer, or have suffered from, the tragedy of this "family secret."

Watch this short video, to get an idea of the story behind her success.


Yes, regardless of what we have endured in the past, there is a path out of darkness, to forgiveness.

I hope you will find your way, as well.

Love, david http://www.davidessel.com

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Advanced Prayers for Others, May Surprise You

An advanced form of prayers for others, does not always come in the way we might expect, and could actually surprise you.

The most challenging form of prayer though, could also be the kind that frees you from bondage, the bondage of the small ego.

Watch this short video, to see what we are referring to.


Slow down, use this type of prayer daily, and share it with others.

Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com


Monday, April 19, 2010

Should we be friends with former lovers?

My client sits before me, quite proud of the fact that she has been deleting the emails from a former lover who has been reaching out as a friend to her. The relationship ended 3 years ago, and as a way to punish him, she has chosen to ignore him.

"He's the one who ended the relationship, so if he thinks I'm going to be a friend now, he's got another thing coming."

Do you agree with her stance?

Watch this brief video, and see how you feel.


If we really look at the motivation behind our actions, we can change all that we are, into love.

Love, slow down, share this video so that we can help others as well.

Peace, david www.davidessel.com


Saturday, March 20, 2010

Two Types of Forgiveness: Yes, it is Possible!

A client walked in recently wanting to find a deeper sense of peace, yet unwillingly to forgive his wife who had cheated on him, ten years earlier. He was followed by a woman who also desired peace, but did not want to talk about her father at all, and how she might find the peace she desired by releasing the stranglehold that she had on him, and her past.

Forgiveness, as many say, is the pathway to peace. But what many people do not realize, is that there are two types of forgiveness.

Watch this short video to see what I mean.


Slow down, decide today to begin the process of forgiving EVERYONE who you hold any sort of resentment or grudge against.

Then, pass this on to as many people as you can. We can help to change the world today.

Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com

Friday, February 5, 2010

Suze Orman: Financial Guru

Without a doubt , Suze Orman is looked at today as one of the top financial guru's of our times. But did you know that she also has faced some amazing challenges, yes financial ones too, along her path to success?

Watch this video as I share the story Suze gave to me, to find out more!




Slow down to find the peace and success you desire. Just like Suze Orman did.

Love, peace, Rev. David Essel www.davidessel.com

Monday, January 11, 2010

Come in from the Cold in Life

IT'S TIME TO COME IN FROM THE COLD


As I was about to run recently, I decided to listen to a tape I hadn't heard in years by Joni Mitchell entitled Night Ride Home. Now, usually, I run with some upbeat, jammin' music, but for some reason, I guess subconsciously, I needed to connect to her words and melodies which I've always found to be very deep and thought provoking. One song had the line "What I've always wanted was just to come in from the cold," which resonated through me with a message that compelled me to write to you about this concept.

From many perspectives, isn't this what we all really want in life? To finally just come in from the cold? Within ourselves, to come in from a cold existence where there are so many things we don't like about who we are . . . to the warmth of self acceptance, self love . . . To leave the cold and bitter mindset of what we are not, to the loving place that embraces all of the wonder of who we are?


Can you feel the shift right now if you were to just allow yourself to come in from the cold? To let down your old walls of self doubt and limitation, and warmly wrap your arms around your true self, the God-essence that runs through us all?

And in regard to relationship to another, the story is the same whether you've been with a partner for 50 years or 50 days, many of us have felt the desire to be embraced, to come in from the cold, distant relationship we've experienced to one of safety, warmth, acceptance. Do you feel on some level a frustration with the coldness that surrounds your heart? The coldness that surrounds your partner's heart? Could you look into your partner's eyes with love and be vulnerable, to ask if they would bring you in from the cold? Could you lovingly ask your partner to reconnect with you and to come into the warmth of your open heart? Could you ask them to come in from the cold?


I ask you to just sit and think about the concept. If it feels too far fetched, wait a little while and revisit this writing. Print a copy and put it away from a few days. Share it with your partner and see if they are open to a new way of experiencing who you are. If they are not, you still can mentally "bring them in from the cold" every day and enjoy the fact that your heart is warm enough and big enough for the both of you.
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If you believe this article can help someone you know, please pass it on.Search. Grow. Love.

Slow down, love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Monday, December 14, 2009

Dealing with Lost Love over the Holidays

While it is very challenging to deal with the loss of a love relationship at any time of year, handling this tragedy during the holidays can be especially painful.

The client from my last blog, who felt so overwhelmed with the many losses in her life recently, sent this email in with permission to print it.

"Yes, you wrote perfectly in your column exactly the state I am in: ovewhelmed. after our last session, I began writing and found that the pain that is most deep right now is over the loss of my love relationship of 3 years. As the holidays approach, it deeply saddens me that i will not have my lover with me. His gifts need to be returned, and the trip we planned is now cancelled. You asked me to write out the role I played in the demise of this love, and at first i thought you were crazy!

I could rationalize my anger at him, for he ended up our last nite together in a deeply crushing arguement, kicking me out of his house at 2am, from which i had to then drive 5 hours to get back to my house. so it's been easy to be mad, and not go deeper.

But in my writing, I saw that I had not been honest with him over the years about my feelings. Each week, we'd go to his church which i did not enjoy, but continued going "for love", which I see now was a mistake as I must have held onto resentments, yet never dealt with them. It would had been better to express this, and go with him maybe once a month.

Each weekend we were together, we went to his parents for lunch, which again was overkill for me. As an only child, he obviously got whatever he wanted , and expected me to go with him, as that's just the way it was. Again, I know now I held a resentment against him, as I got tired of this very fast. I should have said i'll go once in a while with him, and filled that time doing other activities I missed doing.

It's amazing now that I find out that I'm really quite upset with myself, for not setting my own boundaries, instead just going along even if it did not feel right for me. I know in love we all must be flexible, but we also must be willing to have someone be upset with us if our beliefs are not the same.

I think ultimately, i did all of these things as I so wanted our relationship to last. I was afraid of being rejected, bottom line.

Now I must deal with this loss during the most festive time of the year. seeing my role in it now, how I did not discuss my true feelings, might make my healing a little easier, and now I will find maybe other people to help over the holidays.

Thank you so much for all of your help, your writing exercises have helped me seee the truth, and forgive myself and him a little more. "

Slow down, and be the love you already are.

Love, peace, David www.davidessel.com

Monday, December 7, 2009

Tiger Woods: Part 2: Your Comments

Let's look for a voice of reason to go along with all of the negative sensationalism that is currently surrounding Tiger Woods. Here are a few comments relating to my first blog on Tiger.

"I admire Tiger charities, all the magnificent work he has done for children, and the centers are so educational. He is someone with a big heart and HUMAN after all...I hope everything turns out OK in his personal life...You are right sooner or later we all make mistakes and our duties are to improve ourselves and become better people, perhaps the only way we can achieve the improvement is with love and support from others...REJECTION and negativity makes things worse..."

"The media is based on sensationalism, and in this case continuing to bring more information into the public eye will hurt everyone, his wife, families and children even more. Like you said, those around the office gossiping about people like Tiger should look into their own imperfections, and heal themselves first. "


"We are looking into the mirror as we exhaust Tigers errors. Yes, gossip is all about trying to make ourselves feel better, more superior than who we are talking about. you nailed that point."

"You've written before about sex addiction, and I even heard you do a radio show on this topic. You said then that many people caught in affairs are actually battling a sexual addiction, like alcoholism, the drinker cannot stop at one. The analogy here is interesting David. Maybe you could help him heal."

"The answer is to turn off all media reporting on this topic, and to walk away from anyone who wants to discuss it. As you say, Period. "

As I said earlier, it is better that we focus on ourselves, loving each other more, and taking care of our own faults and weaknesses instead of gossiping about others. Forgive yourself for all the errors you've made in life first.

Love, peace, Rev. David http://www.davidessel.com/

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Are you really ready for love?

( My client Kathie from the West Coast enthusiastically gave me permission to print her story, as she begins her path to self love and healing. DE)


There was a long pause on the other end of the phone after I had asked my client a very important question to start off our first session. "Are you really ready for love?"

"Of course I am!" , she replied. "That's why I hired you, to help me create a great mindset to attract the man of my dreams."

For the next 30 minutes she rambled on and on about what a great catch she was. She owned several homes and condominiums, had worked for the same firm for 30 years,and was a self made woman that all men should respect. Her last relationship ended in betrayal, but that was 12 months ago and she was just glad to have that loser out of her life. She had almost started dating someone right after that relationship ended, but he began some strange behavior, stalking her in a way online.

While her ex-husband was still in the picture , it was only because they had 4 children together. He was nothing but a pain in her side, constantly giving her grief.

I asked her about her family, which she tried to skirt around, until she finally admitted that she had not talked to her mother in many years, and that her greatest accomplishment was that she did not end up like her in any way at all. As a matter of fact, she had hoped to never speak to her again, and refused visits with her children, as she felt her mother would be a bad influence on them.

She then proceeded to tell me that she did not trust people very easily, as most were not to be trusted. She just wanted to meet the man that would make her life complete. The man that would show her children what it meant to be a good father figure. A man that she could finally trust, as the ones up to now she could not.

What followed after her monologue was not what she wanted to hear, although it was the truth.

"I honestly can say, that I believe you are ready to begin your healing work but you are not ready for a real love relationship. Love, real love, demands that your heart is open, that you trust until you have a reason not to, that you are emotionally free of your past relationships, and that you have come to closure with your family of origin issues."

I could hear her tapping her finger on the table, totally frustrated with the news she was getting.

"By the tone of your voice, you cannot stand your ex-husband, and you still have resentments against your ex-boyfriend who betrayed you somehow. And, there is unfinished business with your mother, as when you talk about her, your voice tone totally changes. "

"You don't understand", she replied, "my ex-husband harasses me weekly and the ex-boyfriend stole money from me, and lied repeatedly. I just want to meet a great guy, finally, once and for all."

"I know you may not appreciate this, but we attract in the dating world the same type of people, with the same energy, that we currently are/have. Until you change, and fully forgive your ex-husband and ex- boyfriend, you will continue to attract the same type of people. Truthfully, any healthy man you might meet right now would walk away from you, because they would see, or feel, your drama and unfinished business."

I continued.

"The best thing right now for you, would be to NOT date at all. Take this time to work on yourself, to heal, to forgive even your mother. If you do this, you will find love. If you do not, you'll continue to create chaos and drama in your relationships."

Of course if she wanted to date, I knew she would, regardless of what I might be sharing with her. I have coached women in a similar situation who have dated while they healed, but they did so as close friends, never going into a full blown relationship. Possible, but not easy for many.

I left her with a "prescription" that I write about in the book "Slow Down". Take six months to 1 year, and work with a therapist, coach or minister each week to finally learn how to love yourself and others through forgiveness and acceptance. We will be ready for love if we clean up our past. If we don't, we'll continue to live it in every new relationship.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel http://www.davidessel.com

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

How to Deepen Your Spiritual or Religious Path During Blessed And Challenging Times

Sunday, March 22st, 1PM to 6PM
David Essel, Co-Founder and Minister for The Church of Spiritual Light in Ft. Myers, Florida, presents a new interactive session to help individuals deepen their spiritual or religious path, through all phases of life. All faiths are welcome. For this session, please bring a journal.

Topics to be covered include, but not limited to:

1) How to create a deeper spiritual or religious path

2) Why what we encounter, abundance or challenges, are crucial as stepping stones to a deep and rich life

3) The power of daily rituals, what they are, and how to incorporate them into the busiest of schedules.

4) Understanding the concept of a "Higher Power"

5) A look at creating the ultimate on earth...Divine Union from a spiritual perspective

6)Using meditation as a tool to connect with The Divine, that resides within "the gap " of life

7) Finding God, or your spiritual connection, in various forms of music

8) Creating depth, love, acceptance and forgiveness in your life now...

This experiential workshop will be filled with joy, laughter, introspection and spiritual abundance in a format never seen before.

Each participant will have the opportunity to experience the concept of "Divine Union" during this very workshop!

Included in your admission, at no extra charge, will be a copy of David's newest book "Heaven on Earth", his cd, "Slow Down to Deepen Your Own Spiritual Path", as well as a diksha blessing or "Blessing of Grace." (Total value of these products $57)

The class will be held at Center To Self Reliance, 1939 Park Meadows Drive, Fort Myers, Fl 33908.

Call (941) 266-7676 or visit www.ChurchOfSpiritualLight.org

Cost: $99 - Early registration is suggested as seating is limited.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Radio Interview: Suze Orman, Financial Guru

Suze Orman, now known by most as the financial guru seen on her own television show, as well as heard on her radio program, was an extremely interesting and upbeat guest to interview.

What impressed me the most about Suze during our interview, was her background, and the trials she had gone through in her past to get her to where she is today.

Many may not know that a number of years ago, one of her assistants embezzled almost her entire life savings! After giving this person the responsibility of handling her business and income, she returned from a trip to find out the money, almost down to her last cent, had been stolen.

As she told me during this interview, that the lessons learned through this experience actually created the person she is today, both personally and professionally.

Her ability to forgive, and create steps to eliminate this experience from ever reoccurring in the future has made her into one of the most successful financial advice experts of our times.

And, her passion, energy, and love for what she does comes through in each and every interview I have ever done with her.

Slow Down. Learn from your own past financial choices, let them go...forgive yourself and anyone else you may need to in this arena of your life to create the future you desire.

Love, Peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com