Love is Not enough, for a great relationship. Period.

One of the greatest illusions of all times, is the belief that if we just love someone enough, it will be all that's needed to create a great relationship.

Bullcrap.

As we buy into this fallacy, that is reinforced through magazines , books and movies, we actually decrease our chances of creating a beautiful love relationship.

Watch this short video to see what I mean.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8BZde5XrXrg

Slow down, to let love thrive.

Love, david http://www.davidessel.com

Connecting One on One with God: The Eyes Have It

Did you know that there is an amazingly simple technique that you can use right now to begin to form an even deeper connection with God?

Many believe that this connection is only for the sages, monks and priests, when in actuality, it is available for all of us.

Watch this video, and see exactly what I mean.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpZLrbHVI9U

Slow down, practice this daily, and in just minutes you will find yourself immersed in a deeper relationship with God.

Then, please pass this on so other scan benefit too.

Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com

Sacred Sexuality: Intimacy, Love and More

When I first heard the terms "Sacred Sexuality", I imagined some type of ancient rituals surrounding sex that someone had to learn from a master or guru. Over the years as I delved into this topic more, I have seen firsthand that everyone can reach this exalted state with their partner, if they really want to. And, with little or no training.

Now, if you have the chance to attend workshops on sensuality, tantra, sexual intimacy or more, absolutely do so! But, if you watch this short video, you can literally transform your intimate union with your partner in a very short period of time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ct70rIr5624

Slow down and find the sacredness in your intimate relationship in order to experience the divine in physical form today.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Communication in Relationships: Comments

As expected, this series of blogs has received a lot of responses. I'll list a few here.

"Men were never supposed to communicate as much as women want. It's not in our genes. "

"I think Clair is so right on, go for what you desire in love, and never let any moron try to convince you otherwise....men can be just as great as communicators as women, if they want to."

"I know a lot of my girlfriends who are just like Clairs ex..they entice a guy in by being available to talk, text in the beginning..then they feel entitled to be "chased by a man if he wants me"...that attitude can turn a lot of guys off...I'm a woman and I don't blame them..it's a crappy way to be in a relationship."

True love is equal......both parties must be able to communicate at the same level...which is why we are not for everyone...so, if you start out in love with great text, email, phone connection..do not lose it! even if it stretches you...find the time in the day to text..it takes just a few seconds..and do you know how great it will make your partner feel? my husband is awesome, he makes me feel so special everyday with his contact..for a while i took it for granted...if he'd contact me , sometimes i'd respond, sometimes i wouldn't..my best friend woke me up one day to the fact about love....i have to stretch myself more if i want it to stay...20 years later, i am blessed by the most amazing man on earth"

" as a guy, I can tell you that getting a text for no reason simply makes me feel loved, yes, some guys would call me a wimp, but whatever..."

" I'm a woman who loves to court and be courted, it should never stop, wane or slow down..if it does, maybe you're not ready for real love.Clair, I think you are...go find the guy who is ready too...."

Slow down, and let your partner know how you feel right now, and every day you are alive.

Love, peace, David www.davidessel.com


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Creating love: Lead with your heart, follow a plan

"When you told me that we would create a place for love to come into my life, by leading with my heart, but also through creating a plan, I really thought this sounded like way too much work. Ninety days later, I see the reality in front of me, and I am just blown away! Wow!"

Frank was somewhat skeptical when he sat in my office a few months ago, and we discussed his desire to create a beautiful love relationship. And yet, as he begins his walk into a new love affair, he is seeing the payoff to both his "heart work", and "head work". ( To see the plan we followed, please read our blog from two days ago, where we describe the steps of intention, gratitude, and action, in our quest for love.)

Over the past number of years, I have seen the same reaction from so
many clients. They are skeptical of creating deep love. They've been hurt too many times. They've been lied to and mislead in love. It may work for others, but they have just about given up on their own beliefs, that deep love can happen for them.

They have just reached the perfect stage of "surrender", and if they now create a plan and follow it daily, they have a fantastic chance to find the love within themselves, and another, that they have been searching for.

Frank was laughing hysterically, actually with a joy I had not seen in our months of weekly meetings. He was blown away, that by writing down the characteristics of the type of person he wanted to meet, (emotionally free of past relationships, happy with herself, a good communicator, fun, spiritual, free of habits that would cause a separation between them, healthy, honest, etc.)and putting a date next to these traits that they would meet by, (Sept, 1st, 2009), and then daily seeing their union in his mind, (visualization with emotion), that the possibility of deep love would actually appear in his life.

Yet, as they met for the first time, as he says, "there was an instant comfort zone that had already been created, we both felt we had been together for a very long time. All I can say is wow, this stuff really works."

The surprise to me every time I see this happen in my work, is "Why would anyone be that surprised? You've just created love on earth, by leading with your heart, (deep desire), and followed a plan." (Brought your desire into the physical plane by writing it down, and following it daily. )

Frank now has the ability, through daily surrender and service, to follow his heart, and watch the love he desires to grow. If his partner is on the same path, there is literally nothing that can stop the flow of love between two conscious, connected souls. Daily reminding each other of the unique love they have, and speaking about how to go to deeper, more open levels of communication, will be the fuel needed to flourish in love.

Slow down, create your path to love, with your current partner, or a new one if you are single today.

Peace, love, David http://www.davidessel.com

Sexuality, Intimacy & You Series

Next Date: Oct 23rd, 2009 - Friday 6-8pm

The topic of sexuality and intimacy is one of the most important issues in our lives, and yet for many it's one that is rarely if ever discussed. While we may feel brave to openly discuss our political or religious views, to often we shy away from exploring our intimate and sexual needs and desires.

What does sexuality mean to you? What does it mean to be truly intimate with yourself and/or another? Is it ok to take care of your sexual needs by yourself even if you are currently in a relationship? Can you openly share your sexual desires with your partner, even if they have no interest in fulfilling them? How do you fulfill your partners desires for true intimacy? Do you even know what they are?

And if you're currently single, how do you get your basic human needs for intimacy and sexuality met? Or are you waiting for someone else to meet them? And if you are, is this the healthiest way to live?

Right now, slow down and take a piece of paper and answer the questions asked in this article. See if you truly do know, or have even explored, the importance of this area of your life. Too many clients that I have worked with over the years have neglected to even try to gain insight into their own as well as their partners beliefs about the topics of sexuality and intimacy, and have watched their love fade due to the neglect of needs and desires.

Yes, I am asking you to be open and vulnerable. And yes, it is in this state that the most amazing experiences of life truly exist. Let's all reach this place together.


Join David for a new dynamic 3-hour workshop which covers information that will offer exciting breakthroughs in how we approach sexuality and intimacy as it relates to self love and acceptance, as well as our ability to love others more deeply.

Many of us shy away from talking about our own sexual needs whether we are currently alone or in a relationship with another. David's philosophy revolves around the concept that if we can begin to approach our feelings about sexuality and intimacy more freely, we then can use this newfound awareness to deepen our love of self, something that many people today struggle with deeply.

"Our gift of intimacy is one to cherish, acknowledge and explore if we are to continue our path to living a more aware, awakened life. It's exciting to see a liberated freedom for people who have explored their passion for intimacy, sexuality and love, and how this freedom positively affects every area of their lives."

Cost: $25 per person/per workshop. To Sign up call 941-266-7676 scroll down to pay online.

Workshops hosted at: Church of Spiritual Light, 1939 Park Meadows Drive, Unit 1, Fort Myers, Fl 33907

Next Dates: Join Rev. David Essel for this 3 part series which covers information that will offer exciting breakthroughs in how we approach sexuality and intimacy as it relates to self love and acceptance, as well as our ability to love others more deeply. These are stand alone sessions and you may join at any time.

Topics:
Sept 25 - The Power of Emotional Foreplay 6-8pm ($25)
Oct 23 - The Joy of Physical Foreplay 6-8pm ($25)
Dec 11 - Creating Sacred Sexuality 6-8pm ($25)