Sunday, October 19, 2008

Our Desire to Be Accepted...Liked By All......

It's funny how my work as a Life Coach often, if not always, is a mirror of my own personal life.

Over the past few weeks, several of my clients have been dealing with their desire to be accepted by others. To be liked by everyone. Their struggle has seemed to be centered on these traits that we all have ingrained since we were little boys and girls.

In some families, the need to be be accepted...has lead to intense addictions. Spending to keep our image up with our neighbors. Having sex with someone who asks for it so that we won't feel the pain of rejection. Accepting a job that looks great in our parents eyes, even though we have no interest whatsoever in the chosen field. Laughing at insensitive jokes to be a part of the work or with friends. Voting for a certain nominee to be accepted by certain groups of co-workers, friends or family members.

Stepping out and living our own life, regardless of who agrees or disagrees, can be a challenging existence...but if your own personal path is not followed, only you are the one to pay. And what is the price tag??? Our own self esteem. Our sense of self. Our self worth. Our personal levels of confidence. Basically, our entire existence is at stake if you want to be honest about it.

Recently, I've had several people pull me aside and say "there are quite a few people who do not like you David...They're saying Who is HE to co-found a non denominational church? Who is HE to call himself a Minister? Who is HE to lead certification workshops for Life Coaches??" And the list goes on.

I know the correct path is not necessarily the easiest one. I give my clients the tools needed to listen to these attacks...and to move forward anyway. We, the people who have dreams, who want to make a difference in this world, need to keep on our glorious, yes glorious path without concern about what others say.

Remember, Christ had many people who vehemently disliked did Buddha... as does Donald Trump...and Suze Orman.....yest they all keep following their own path.

Do the same. Remove the need to be liked by all....and instead..follow your dreams, your heart...your soul..

Do not let the jealousy, insecurity or envy of others get in your way to becoming the beautiful force that you are.

Slow Down.

Love yourself. Peace. Love, David Essel

1 comment:

  1. This is wonderful, heart-warming advice. It is diffifult to accept yourself when you feel others do not accept you at times. It takes strength and conviction to continue, despite discouragement from those people that surround you.