Tuesday, April 28, 2009

How to Create Divine Union With Yourself, God & Your Partner

When: Sun, May 31, 1pm – 4pm
Where: Church of Spiritual Light, 1939 Park Meadows Drive, Fort Myers, Fl 33907 (map)

Divine union, or "true love", is what we all seek. True love is that devotion to self, or devotion to another, that poets, sages and saints have written about since the beginning of time. Time stands still, our hearts and minds are filled with ecstasy, and our singular-purpose becomes keeping the feelings of pure bliss alive. Divine union or true love is available to us all and David Essel, International Author/Speaker, Radio/TV Personality, Master Life Coach Instructor, Co-Founder and Minister of the Church of Spiritual Light, offers a path to assist individuals in achieving this blessed state of being.

“My unique process guides the seeker to find their own spark of Divinity and literally fall in love with themselves, and when that happens the results are truly rapid,” shared Essel.

At some point almost everyone has been told that the only way to really find love is to first find love within. The advice is sound, but without a roadmap often useless and while bookshelves are littered with tomes promising self-love instantaneously, oftentimes the reader is left with more questions than results. Essel’s guided 4-hour program is designed to get to the heart of the true issue.

Participants will receive a copy of David Essel’s book, Phoenix Soul, One Man’s Search For Love and Inner Peace. To register, contact David@DavidEssel.com or call (239) 791-6749 or (941) 266-7676, or visit: www.talkdavid.com .


How to Create Divine Union with Yourself, God & Your Partner Workshop - May 31st - $59

Free Slow Down Book Discussion with David Essel

When: Mon, May 4, 6:30pm – 7:30pm
Where: Church of Spiritual Light, 1939 Park Meadows Drive #1, Fort Myers, FL 33907 (map)

Join Hay House author David Essel for this FREE event as he discusses his book "Slow Down: The Fastest Way to Get Everything You Want". Find out the magic behind his contract, the challenges that came after writing the book, and how slowing down is the answer to creating a life of love and success.

Call 941-266-7676 to RSVP or just come!

Monday, April 27, 2009

The Two Sides of Love: Are You ready?

Anyone who truly wants to experience love has to be ready to delve into ALL of love, the two sides of love.
The one side you dream and fantasize about that is readily described in romantic novels, as well as the side that rarely gets mentioned, the side that encompasses unconditional love.

So what is love? Like anything in life, love is composed of it's opposites, to be what it is. Love, a feeling, an emotion, is probably the most written about topic of all times. Love, to many, is the feeling of God. The feeling of the Divine. The feeling that says "all is perfect, all is beautiful, all is well."

If everything in life must have it's opposite to make it complete, to make it known, then love is also vulnerability, insecurity, and jealousy, for without these aspects of love, the feelings of being "perfect, beautiful, Divine and well", could not be felt.

Identical to the thought that if we never had night, we could not experience day, if we never knew insecurity we'd never experience the security that love can offer. They must go hand in hand.

In my practice, I often share with clients that if they truly want to experience the deepest of love than they must be willing to also experience the deepest pain, loss, vulnerability and hurt that this quest for love may offer.

Many of these emotions, the "other" side of love, can surface if we delve into the concept of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the other part of love that most of us give lip service to, but never really have the intention of practicing. To love someone unconditionally means exactly what it says, without conditions. I love you even if "you don't do as I ask,don't make the money I'd like you to make, don't have the body I want you to have, or don't communicate with me the way I want you to communicate". In other words, I will love you at the deepest level regardless of what you do or do not do.

When we start to love someone at this level, we can be assured that for a while, it will scare the heck out of us. We release our ego through the practice of unconditional love and move to a place of pure acceptance. We toss out the fantasy of having a partner that falls into a certain role, and accept the human side of their existence. This is where we often experience the dark side of our own emotions, fears and insecurities as we allow our partner the space to become their own person without limits or expectations. Again, the fantasy that we have created since childhood gets blasted away, and in it's place we become strong enough, and loving enough, to allow them to live the life they desire.

Within this union, real love can exist. Within this type of relationship, we experience the deepest love for ourselves as we allow our partner more space to grow than they ever could have imagined. When someone feels this type of love coming from you, the will often respond with the same depth in return. The kind of depth that will awaken a new sense of ecstasy within you that may just blow the doors off of anything you could have imagined.

The best way that I have seen this happen is when two people come together and make a conscious decision to discuss this path of unconditional love as a goal that they would like to share. They can then regularly talk honestly about how they are each doing, in a non confrontational and supportive way. While it can also occur without consciousness, the chances of it lasting at this level becomes more of a challenge.

So, now the question lies with you. What do you want when it comes to love? Are you ready to experience the two sides of love in order to reach the zenith of Divine Union or unconditional love? Or, do you want to continue to hold onto the "fantasy love, fantasy partner" that our society continues to promote as realistic to obtain even though we know it is not?

I'd love for you to make a conscious decision today, and then be willing to live with your notion of love. On the one hand is the superficial love filled with shallowness and disappointment from a lover that could never rise to your expectations. Or on the other, is a lover that feels free as a bird, and offers the same freedom in return as you both fly into uncharted territories. A love relationship that offers a connection unknown to most, carried by a current of vulnerability that will stretch you beyond your own wildest dreams. A love that guarantees a soul connection so deep when you make love, one that you could never have created in all of your dreams, even if all you had was time to dream.

Whatever you desire, so it shall be.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

A Powerful Way to Ehance Your Creativity: Remove All Tv/Radio

One of the most powerful ways to enhance your creativity is to create more quiet space in order to allow yourself to think , and reflect, on a daily basis.

While this may sound like common sense, how many of us truly do it regularly?

I recommended to several of my clients that they take a 14 day "vacation" from all forms of media...television, radio, magazines and newspapers.

While driving in the car, complete silence. No music or even motivational Cd's were allowed.

For the first 4 days, each of them recorded the same uneasy emotions in their journals. "Impatience, frustration, and quick to anger " were just a few of the feelings that surfaced. They all said at day 3 that they were ready to give up this ridiculous exercise.

But then the most amazing thing happened.

On day 4 for all of them, they went to this incredible creative space. One single mom ,became so inspired by her free quiet time that she wrote a complete book in 11 days!

Another created a majestic painting of 2 people in a divine embrace, using artistic talent that had been in hibernation for years.

And a third , a very well known psychotherapist, found himself awakening at all hours of the nite with inspiring additions to his new books that had been blocked prior to this "media free" experiment.

When we remove the distractions that we are used to using on a daily basis, our true creative juices can become unlocked, leading as you've seen here to some amazing end results.

You too can enhance your own creativity, and experience the same remarkable breakthroughs for your business, health or relationships, if you just give yourself the quiet time you deserve.

Fourteen days of freedom from all forms of media is all it takes to create your new pathway to success.

Love, peace, David Essel http://www.talkdavid.com/

Monday, April 20, 2009

In Between Jobs? What to do.....

If you're currently in between jobs, how do you spend your time? How do you stay motivated to do what you need to do to find that new position?

A number of years ago my father Ed was in this very position. With 3 kids and a wife to support, the pressure at one point became too much and he went to his doctor to get some medication for anxiety.

A very wise man, the doctor prescribed the golf driving range every morning at 7.30am instead of the medication.

He reasoned with my father that if he did this, he would release stress, and when he returned home at 9am he'd be ready to attack the day with a renewed energy.

It worked. My dad recalled how he really started to focus on the task at hand, and within a very short period of time had secured a new position.

Think about how you can use this example in your life to keep your energy up and your motivation strong while you are briefly in between jobs. It works.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel. www.talkdavid.com

Beauty Pageants: A Path to Confidence

Over the years I have had the chance to work with many young women as they prepared themselves for one of the hundreds of Beauty /Modeling Pageants available today, and in each and everyone of them I saw an immense increase in their confidence in life regardless if they won or not.

One girl, who was coaxed into competing by her best friend, could barely look me in the eye as we tried to prepare her for a one question interview format. Within 3 hours, everything shifted! She had never received assistance in regards to personal communication skills, and once she trusted the process, she totally blossomed.

Another always walked with her shoulders slumped forward, even though she was a gifted musician, straight A student, and exceptional volleyball player. Her internal confidence was low, as she had tried to hide the fact that she was uncomfortable being taller than all of her friends.
Within several weeks, she had a transformation that astounded everyone, as she walked into the room with her shoulders back and head held high.

Many who compete in these events use them as stepping stones for careers in broadcasting, and also as a way to enhance their chances of getting into the college of their choice.

My role is an incredibly exciting one, as I watch them enthusiastically learn the secrets of public presentation skills, interviewing, posture, and the safest ways to create the lean and fit physique they've always wanted in a safe and sane way.

No extreme diets, no starvation methods, just time tested eating plans and exercise routines that radically can shift any ones body in 4-9 weeks.

Yes, beauty pageants can enhance all of the contestants levels of confidence, and it's exciting to see the amazing end results year after year.

Love, peace. David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Friday, April 17, 2009

"The Guitar"..A Transformational Movie

"The Guitar" is truly one of the most thought provoking and transformational movies I have seen in a very long time.

While receiving strong reviews from the Sundance Film Festival, it has lingered in the background, an unknown in many circles.

If you are ready to transform your life, or if life is forcing you to transform yourself due to circumstances outside of your control, you will benefit greatly from watching this film.

The main character is hit with many intense challenges all on the same day, and decides to follow a path she had only dreamed about in the past.

Some of her choices may be against your belief systems, yet they hold the key to true personal growth: the only time we truly alter our lives in very big ways, is when we choose to walk into the unknown.

Rent this movie today, and watch the powerful transformation that our character goes through, and then decide what radical changes you must make to get the same end result.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Thursday, April 16, 2009

"Does Life Have To Be This Hard?"

"Does life really have to be this hard...I mean all the time? " My Client, a 40 year old single mom was at the point of breakdown , again.

From financial challenges, to a recent relationship breakup, she wanted a break from the insanity, as she put it.

Her daily schedule was intense, her daily workouts were also intense, as was her desire to find a path without this much struggle.

Her story however, is a very common one. A story currently being played out amongst many of my clients..some very wealthy..some in long term marriages...some single people with no children.

So there is a thread here, a denominator, that we all can learn from.

As the Buddhists say, our suffering is always caused by our desire that life, or someone else, or even ourselves , be different than it, or they, or I am at this moment.

In other words, our inability to accept life on life's terms will always lead to suffering.

"If only my finances were better...if only my body was in better shape..if only I had a better relationship with God...if only my partner was sober...".

I think you get the idea.

So in reality, if we can release from time to time that life should be different than it is at this moment, we'd find a place of peace.

Life does not always have to be hard...but the change in the perception we hold is so much more important than what goes on around us.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Monday, April 13, 2009

The Beauty of Discontentment

Yes, there is actually beauty in living a life of discontent, where you know that there has to be more to life than what you are holding on to at this very moment.

To realize you are discontented is an actual moment of awakening! Do you know how many people stay in their false "dream state", believing that while they may not be happy, there are really no other choices that could turn their lives around?

Crazy thinking isn't it?

When we get to the point and ask, "Is this really all there is to life...love...God...my career....friendships...", we have hit a moment of potential breakthrough.

I say potential, because if we want our life to reach that place of excitement, real love and more, we're going to have to move into the unknown, which will rip any sense of security right out from underneath us.

STOP playing it safe in life.

Start living.

Challenge your old beliefs.

Give to others.... love, joy, compliments, smiles, money...that which you wish to receive.

Take risks, get help, live life differently.

See the beauty in your feelings of discontent.

Slow down. It's never too late to change.

Unless....like many who will read this...you wait until tomorrow.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Friday, April 10, 2009

Surrender Part 2: Alcohol..The Accepted Addiction

Depending on what statistics you look at , up to 30% of our population at any given time are alcoholics, addicted to alcohol in one way or another.

Now, this might be the person who drinks only on New Years Eve, yet once they begin they don't want to stop.

Or it could be the one who simply celebrates weddings and birthdays with drinks, that could never stop at just one.

And, it could be the person who has just wine with dinner, every dinner, and the thought of not being able to enjoy those drinks makes them irritable.

It could be your husband or wife, who seem to handle their alcohol quite well, although you have no idea that they're actually sneaking drinks when you're not around...or making sure their wine glass is always topped off, so that it doesn't look like they're really drinking alot.

I fall into many categories when it comes to being an alcoholic, thankfully and gratefully in recovery, and got away with it for years because it is such an acceptable addiction.

We rationalize drinks when we're stressed, tired, excited, elated, bored, mad, discouraged, happy....when it's Friday, Saturday, Sunday with the game, Monday , Tuesdays, "Hump day"...just to get through the week.

I think you get the picture.

Alcohol is available everywhere, and for anyone in business, it is the acceptable way to say" hi, goodbye, great to get the contract, I can't believe we didn't get the contract, let's brainstorm about business ideas"....and about 1 million other excuses to have that drink.

I was blessed several years ago, after over 30 years of being an addict and alcoholic myself, when a woman I was dating sat me down and told me her story of addiction, alcoholism,and recovery.

She finally told me after several months of dating, not because she wanted me to change, but she felt that if I heard it from someone else, I might leave her.

Wow, and do you know that her story moved me so, so deeply, that I finally surrendered.

Two days later, I admitted I had had a problem for years and years, and called the facility she went to and checked myself in over the phone.

Thirty days later, she drove me to the Hanley Center for Addiction and Alcoholism in West Palm Beach , Florida, and began my true surrender by walking through the doors for my 30 day stay.

Without a doubt, one of the most amazing moves that I have ever done in my entire life.

Pure fear coursed through my body as she left me in the detox wing. Tears of anxiety, loss, and wanting so badly to have her stay, so as I left one of my best friends I had had since 16, alcohol, at least she would be there.

That of course was against the rules, so I had to surrender all that I knew about feeling safe too.

I know that the full surrender to a higher power is the only proven way to sobriety.

Sobriety to any addiction, money, power, spending, nicotine, sex, negative thinking, low self worth, drugs, alcohol, food...is only truly possible through the path of surrender.

I had tried so many other paths, therapies, drugs to reduce cravings...and not one brought the full relief that surrender, part of all 12 Step programs, did.

If you're one of the millions who struggle with alcohol, make today the day you let go, trust God, find help.

I will forever be grateful to the woman who opened my eyes through her story, a story that changed my life forever.

Now, in my coaching practice, I am getting the chance to help hundreds of kids and adults get clean from alcohol and drug abuse.

The accepted addictions, aren't acceptable anymore.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Sunday, April 5, 2009

How Positive Thinking Can Work for You

Positive thinking can work for all of us, and help us to achieve greater success in life, if we know how to use it correctly.

In my last blog, I talked about the downfalls or perils of positive thinking. Like the person who says they'll quit drinking vodka because they realize they may be dependent upon it and only consume wine or, people who hope if they just think positive thoughts they won't have to face their financial crisis, or crappy relationship..... positive thoughts can be used as a way to try to escape the reality of life.

Once you learn how to deal with the emotions you're trying to escape, and actually feel the pain, insecurity, or fear in your life, you can then use positive affirmations, books and CD's to greatly enhance your energy and drive.

Positive thinking the, can actually work in your favor.

The power of positive thinking can enhance your discipline, assist you in finishing a delayed project, propel you to take new risks, and open your mind to the untapped power that lies withing each of us.

Slow down, feel your challenges, then go to work and surround yourself with the power of positive thinking.

Read books, connect with positive groups through church, community or networking organizations.

Learn how to love yourself more deeply, and watch your world change.

Love, peace David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Friday, April 3, 2009

The Perils of Positive Thinking??

As it states in the religion/philosophy of Taoism, the opposites of life are needed for light to shine in the midst of the darkness, so yes, there are perils to those who try to fight anxiety, depression, lack etc. with the weapon of positive thinking alone.

Recently a client sat across from me perplexed as to why he was still in a state of anxiety regarding his finances, career and more when he had been reading, listening to and reciting line after line of positive affirmations for the past 30 days. When he saw no results, he decided to work with a life coach.

The power of positive thinking, affirmations, positive treatments, all have their place in life.

But so does deeply feeling the anguish of doubt, fear, loneliness.

Mother Teresa wrote about her anguish, and doubt in God at times.

President Lincoln is well known for his "dark nights of the soul."

Art Buchwald found relief from clinical depression only after admitting he needed to look into, not away from, his internal pain!

You and I are the same.

Do not "mask " your pain with positive thoughts, religion, or affirmations.....instead write about your anguish....feel it deeply for several minutes a day for a week, then follow those deep periods of pain with coaching, counseling, services, meetings and positive affirmations.

Slow down, feel all of the deep feelings that God gave you, that you might want to run from. They are there for a reason, not just to be shoved under a rug. If we try to cover them, we face the perils of positive thinking.

They just become worse. Not better. Ask Art, Mother Teresa in your meditations, or anyone else such as myself, who has experienced deep clinical depression, to find that the only way out is to stop running, and go deeper inside.

Relief, then, will come.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com