Saturday, May 17, 2008

Living Wide Open in Life...Passion

As I review my life's work, my life's path, I like to ask myself regularly...Am I living wide open? Or am I playing life safe. Not taking risks. Not pushing the boundaries of life. Am I thrilled with what I'm about to do today??? Or, is it just another Saturday...or Tues....or whatever.

If the question arises with one of my clients during a session that goes something like this..."You mean it's May already????? Where did April go??"...It either means we are so filled with passion, with life, that the time is flying by in an amazingly good way...or we are so bored with the routine of life that it is slipping by with very little to be excited about.

Now, only you know the answer for you and your life with this question. If you're living wide open, with passion, taking risks, getting out of your comfort zone, breaking the "habit "of living, and replacing it weekly with meeting new people, eating new foods, going to different types of movies, making love in a new position, or with a greater awareness of your lover.....I love that one, don't you?? you are living wide open.

Today, make a pact to "do" life differently. Pray in a new setting. Workout on a new machine. Read a book you'd normally never pick up. Say hi to a stranger in a store.

Decide today to live life wide open. Not tomorrow, today.

Bring more passion into your life now. Then end result may not always be perfect, or what you expected. It could end up being so, so much better.

It has worked wonders for thousands of my clients, for myself, for my friends. And yes, I want it to work for you too.

Love, Peace. David

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Self Acceptance..Through Nudity??????

A client came to me recently perplexed over her inability to accept her body the way it is today. She has been working out regularly, releasing emotional pain from the past, eating healthy, receiving an array of compliments from both men and women…..yet she still only sees a body that is not “worthy “ of acceptance. At least in her mind.

“The compliments are nice , don’t get me wrong I am grateful for them, but I just cannot say I’m pleased at all with what I see. ” Some may say, since her body looks amazing , that she’s suffering from a perceptual disease, an emotional inability to see the reality of what her body really looks like. Since 60% of our population is overweight, she easily falls into the top 40% of Americans in regard to body size.

So I asked her to do 2 tasks for the next 30 days that I knew could have a powerful impact on her self image:

1. To have her boyfriend take photo’s of her body, as it is true that looking in the mirror may not give some people the unbiased reality of what they do look like.

2. To walk around as much as possible in the privacy of her home without any clothes on..yes, in the nude. And, to make sure when she did walk by a mirror, to stop and look for the parts of her body that she DOES like.

The results were amazing. First, as her and her boyfriend sat in front of me with the photo’s, she was amazed at how comfortable she was looking at her body in this detached way…..and how she did appreciate herself from this perspective.

Next, she admitted that while at first walking around her home nude was uncomfortable, and especially stopping and looking at herself in a mirror , after 2 weeks it became a real joy. She danced in the nude, felt free, and actually began appreciating the way she looked. The more she became comfortable seeing herself in the nude, the more she began to love who she was. Now. Not in the future.

Slow Down. Practice self acceptance daily.

Love, Peace, David

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Enhancing Daily Productivity……..

If we want to be more successful, happier and more fulfilled in life, we really do need to look at the effectiveness, or ineffectiveness, of thedaily system that we use at work.

Productivity, whether we work out of our house, car or a 100 story office building, is directly tied into the ability to focus. The more we can focus on any given task, the easier it is to move through that task and do it at a very proficient level.

One technique that I have been sharing with all of my business clients, the ability to actually schedule limited times each day to read and respond to email, was highlighted extremely well in the book “4 Hour Work Week ” by Timothy Ferris.

Most of us spend way too much time reading, responding to and filing email every day. Each time we look away from the work at hand to check email, we dilute our effectiveness and our productivity.

So here’s a productivity booster: only read and respond to email 2 times every day, let’s say 9am and 4pm.

For many of us, as we read this, we went automatically into “email withdrawal”.

“Oh no”, screams the American worker, “anything but THAT!!!”

I’m laughing as I write this…TRY it for 30 days and I guarantee an increase in your daily productivity and success. It’s that simple.

Slow Down. Love, David