Saturday, July 26, 2008

The Negative Side of Positive Thinking

Too much of anything, the saying goes, just might not be good for us after all.

Chocolate is actually very good for us in small amounts, due to the antioxidants buried in this wonderful treat, but if taken to the extreme it can cause a variety of health problems.

And so it is also with positive thinking.

You might be surprised to read this coming from a motivational speaker, so let me give you an example.

A friend of mine came to me sharing how her husband had been delaying taking care of a huge problem in their life, and when I asked her how she felt about it, her response was, "Well it's all good you know", followed by a nervous laugh.

When I then asked if she had been attending the classes she had told me about to help her break one of a few addictions, there was that nervous laugh again followed by 'Well no, but it's all good."

'I'm staying positive through it all, it's all good."

Honestly, no one can stay positive through great challenges in life if they're burying their head in the sand with statements like "it's all good....things always work out for the best" etc etc.

If you really want to know the truth, the most positive people in this world are actually DOING something about the challenges they face on a daily basis, not just chiming in with cute sayings.

Ignoring serious health, relationship or financial problems with positive statements does nothing for the situation, or our self esteem.

The negative side of positive thinking lies in our fear of taking action when we know we should, and instead just reading positive books or listening to uplifting Cd's.

While these are important things to do, our confidence is only truly enhanced through our actions, and secondarily improved through our thoughts.

So today if you notice that you've been less than successful in any area of your life, but you tell everyone around you that "it's all good".... ask yourself a serious question..."Is my life really that great?"

I think the answer might surprise you.

Slow down. Then take that step you've been procrastinating on...and watch your world drastically change for the better.

Love, Peace, David Essel

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