Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Advanced Prayers For Ourselves
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Age , Dating, Love...Does it Really Matter?
Monday, June 28, 2010
Tea: The Next Power Drink
Tea: The Next Power Drink
What the Far East has known for centuries has hit our shores with a bang heard across the United States: tea is an elixir for great health, now known as a power drink.
From Tufts University to the Institute for Cancer Prevention, thousands of medical papers have been published over the past 10 years attesting to the benefits of this beverage. Regardless if you like it hot or cold, the outcome seems to be the same: a healthier immune and circulatory system.
To set the record straight, green and black tea all come from the same tea plant. Green tea leaves are not fermented, rather they are simply steamed. Black tea goes through a different process, where these same leaves are crushed and then fermented.
In an interview for WebMD, tea researcher, John Weisburger, Ph.D., explains that the power in tea comes from the extensive amount of antioxidants in this drink. Antioxidants are chemicals within our bodies that detoxify the cell damaging “free radicals” that have been linked to everything from cancer to heart disease.
Some researches believe that the reason the Japanese and Chinese suffer from less heart disease, and even certain cancers than Americans, could be related to their high daily consumption of tea.
Experts like Dr. Weisburger recommend 6-10 cups of tea per day in order to achieve the maximum health benefits from this drink. Of course, the addition of milk, cream and substantial amounts of sugar to any tea drink may counteract some of the positive effects this beverage offers.
During the next visit to your favorite restaurant, ask your server about the variety of teas that they offer and begin to experiment with this soothing and healthy drink.
Drink Smart. Drink up. Drink tea daily.
Peace, Love,
David Essel, M.S.
www.davidessel.com
Author, Radio & Television Host, Lifestyle Coach
Friday, June 25, 2010
Do You Want to be Really Successful? Here's how.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Are You a Thermostat or a Thermometer? Let's See
ARE YOU A THERMOSTAT OR A THERMOMETER? © David Essel
One of my favorite motivational teachers over the years has been the late Earl Nightingale, one of the founders of the educational resource company, Nightingale-Conant. Earl had a wonderful way with analogies in life. One of his most memorable analogies was the thermostat/thermometer question.
So let me ask you, "Are you a thermostat or a thermometer?" The importance of this question may astound you!
A thermostat type person sets their own "temperature" so to speak. They are in control of their reactions to life and realize the importance of being able to regulate the amount of energy that they put out at any one time. If they are about to get involved in a "heated" argument, they understand the importance of "cooling down" their reaction to the situation. They have a wonderful understanding that no one can make them react, that it is their choice to respond in a way they choose. While no one is perfect, the "thermostat" type person is in control of their own "temperature" most of the time. Have you figured out what type of a person you are yet? Without even explaining what type of person a "thermometer" is yet, you can probably imagine where you fit in.
The "thermometer" type reacts almost entirely to outside influences. Their quality of life, their ability to have a good or a bad day depends on the events going on around them. They react instantly to these influences. A rainy day can easily bring them down. Constructive criticism can ruin a week for them. They fluctuate like the weather in Syracuse, NY (if you don't like it, wait 30 minutes because it will change!) up, down, cold, hot. They are known as "reactors". They have very little sense of control over how they act or so they would like you to believe!
However, anyone can change! It may be an effort consisting of small steps, but it can be done. Our goal should be to react more like the thermostat, able to enjoy life more because we deal with life using a small sense of control. Follow these steps to become a thermostat vs. a thermometer in your life:
- Write down the one or two areas where you need to show less reaction to outside influences that you allow to "get to you".
- Now, watch yourself change your reaction. In the past, you would have become upset or mad but now visualize yourself reacting as a thermostat in control of your behavior.
- Close your eyes and see yourself in that situation (in traffic, at work with your boss/co-workers, relationship issues, etc.).
- OPEN your eyes and smile at this first successful step.
- Carry this paper with you to reinforce this change.
- Do this for 30 consecutive days. Do not hesitate to find a counselor to discuss this situation with. Become the person that is already inside you waiting to be set free. Being the "thermostat" in life can bring you the energy and joy you've always been missing.
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Search. Grow. Love.
Love, peace, david http://www.davidessel.com
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
60 years of Marriage: How do you do this?
So many of my friends have asked me how my parents, who just celebrated 60 years of marriage, did it.
Well. let's see what they had to say, about this question.
Hi Dave, thanks for all the congrats from your friends. We don't know of any secret formula to a happy and log lasting marriage. It is what you make of it. Remember, 60 years ago life was much simpler than today, but this is what we tried to live by:
Marriage is a lifetime commitment and should be entered into with that in mind.
You should truly care for your partner, treat them with respect and try to make them happy.Decisions should be mutual. If you cannot agree then agree to disagree. Do not hold a grudge.
You need to give each other space at times. Absolutely no arguing in front of children.
Be sure to understand your partners position and discuss the problem and compromise when possible.
To paraphase: Do unto your partner as you would have your partner do to you.If you throw a rope over a house and each get on an end and pull you won't get anyplace. But if you both get on one end and pull you can accomplish your goal.(this piece of advice came from Grandpa Loughlin) Hope this helps, M&D
I love you so much mom and dad!! the fact that you took the time to write this for my friends, and me
says everything about you both!
slow down, love, please share this with your friends, david
www.davidessel.com
60 Years of Marriage: How They Did It.
My mom and dad just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary, and many people have
asked me how they stayed married for 60 years. So, let's see what they had to say about this question.
Hi DaveTell Cathy thanks for the congratsWe don't know of any secret formula to a happy and log lasting marriage. It is what you make of it.Remember, 60 years ago life was much simpler than today, but this is what we tried to live by.Marriage is a lifetime commitment and should be entered into with that in mind.You should truly care for your partner, treat them with respect and try to make them happy.Decisions should be mutual. If you cannot agree then agree to disagree. Do not hold a grudge.You need to give each other space at timesAbsolutely no arguing in front of childrenBe sure to understand your partners position and discuss the problem and compromise when possible.To paraphase: Do unto your partner as you would have your partner do to you.If you throw a rope over a house and each get on an end and pull you won't get anyplace. But if you both get on one end and pull you can accomplish your goal.(this piece of advice came from Grandpa Loughlin) Hope this helps
Monday, June 14, 2010
WE Are All The Same: One. Hard to Accept.
WE ARE ALL THE SAME
In John Perkins' powerful book Shapeshifting: Shamanic Techniques for Global and Personal Transformation, a common thread that connected the shaman healers from several different countries that he worked with was the message that we all are the same, that all of us are equal regardless of our titles, position, wealth, health, attitudes, or religion. On the outside, this seems like a noble statement that many of us repeat and would like to believe, but on the inside I doubt that we truly think this is the reality. It is very hard to adopt this as the truth when in almost every society we promote the notion that some of us are better, more important than others.
At a recent business event where I spoke, I had presented this idea as one worthy of our discussion — that the benefits of breaking down the stereotypes of this “superiority” could be incredible, leading to improved morale and productivity in the workplace and a more enjoyable existence in the outside world. I mentioned how I have been attempting to consciously catch my thoughts of judgment regarding my role in society, let's say compared to a hotel maid. Erroneously, we have looked at people in the service industries with less respect, which is so sad and even hurtful to ourselves and the other person. For over 15 years now I have made it a personal mission to try and look into the eyes and smile at every hotel worker that I can, and in essence become them for a moment. Who knows what we could learn from anyone if we had the chance to sit as equals vs. the often accepted attitude that because one makes more money, or has an entitled position, that they are better than someone else.
After the lecture, an executive approached me and candidly said he has a hard time looking at a taxi driver as an equal. As one with an MBA and a salary exceeding $200,000 per year, I could sense he felt the need to believe, because he had pushed himself to succeed, that he was at a higher level than someone who took the lazy way out and drove others around for a living. I shared with him the story I go into detail about with the Korean taxi driver on my audio tape How to Stay Mentally Fit & Incredibly Productive. This driver was so deep, insightful and successful in more ways than I could have ever imagined had I not gotten into a fantastic conversation with him. That day opened my eyes to a whole new way of looking at others. How could I look at him as someone less than me when he had so much to share? And on another trip, I had three different drivers, all between 35 and 60 with amazing backgrounds: a retired professor of philosophy, a person who sold his home to live on the beach and finally enjoy life with a job that gave him flexible hours, and a newly retired businessman who sold his company and wanted to stay mentally fresh by interacting with people daily. Yet, our first instinct is often to judge the taxi driver unfairly as one below us . . . one who is less than we are.
We all are the same. Searching for ourselves. The sooner we begin to accept all others equally, the sooner our world will turn into a brighter, more joyful place. Respect everyone, starting today.
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Search. Grow. Love.
LOve, peace, david www.davidessel.com
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
An Amazing Story of Healing. Enjoy
THE WORLD WE LIVE IN
The following letter describes so poignantly the power to heal that resides within, an amazing story of true healing, . . . just waiting to be coaxed to the surface and put to work. Read this letter at least twice. Toni's description of her experience really is beautifully written. As you look at your body today, I hope you'll take it less for granted and really appreciate all that we do have. Thank you Toni for opening our eyes to all that you have to teach us, including the importance of the human connections in one's life.
Dear David,
It's very interesting, this world we live in and how we all have our individual stories on God and our souls. I was an entertainer in the Atlantic City area for all of my days and singing for a living can appear more glamorous than it really is. You can find yourself walking down the wrong paths many, many times. Until God says that was your last wrong turn.
One day I woke up and I could no longer feel my legs . . . interesting, since I kind of need them to sing and dance. I became "Dorothy" kind of like the Wizard of Oz character and I would almost become this character for about 3 months. Within 24 hours I would be paralyzed and pretty much blind. Not very cool. I felt like I was swept up in a big tornado and when I landed I was in a hospital bed . . . diagnosis Multiple Sclerosis. Soooo here's where life get real interesting. I had the coolest doctor in the whole land of Oz. He taught me imaging. I would picture myself Perfect. I also met a lot of characters along the way. Since I was soooo afraid I had to educate myself, that's where the Scarecrow came in. I needed a Brain, so i could learn everything I could to fight this stupid thing. Next, I needed Courage, I could never take another step again or face the world without Courage. Enter you know who, The Old Cowardly Lion. And finally I met up with the Tin Man, the very most important character. He taught me Love and Happiness and everything that is Positive. It's been 12 years, I walk, I run, I work . . . I LIVE and you know what ? I can't have a bad day. I just can't have a bad day anymore. I got a new lease on life and I'm living it, happily ever after, somewhere over the rainbow.
Thanks David for sharing positive thoughts and spiritual energy . . . have a beautiful life's journey my friend.
Toni Bocelle
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Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Mental Alertness, Spirituality, through Aromatherapy
MENTAL FITNESS WITH AROMA THERAPY
To help us stay alert, cut down on our errors and be more productive, we need to be open minded to techniques that we may not be familiar with, such as Aromatherapy. Aromatherapy is taken from the Greek words "aroma" meaning spice and "therapy," meaning healing. Using the powerful fragrances extracted from plants and flowers, it is possible to stimulate different physiological reactions.
To connect more closely with God, try frankincense, or myrrh. Inhale, go within, let go.
In the magazine EXEC, a study in Japan was discussed in which the results were quite spectacular. The scent of lemon decreased workers' errors by 54% and when Jasmine was used, mistakes decreased by 33%. Whether you are studying for a test, reading business material or just trying to catch up with the pile of month old magazines in your living room, using scents makes sense! Jasmine and lemon both have stimulating properties that may make concentration a little easier.
Make sure you use pure essential oils with your diffuser. These products are available at most health food stores. Any products that are listed as "essence of . . ." are not essential oils and may not bring to you the effect you desire.
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Love, peace, david www.davidessel.com