If we all want to be honest with ourselves, I think most of us can admit to having a hard time forgiving certain people in our lives for what they have done or said to us or about us. We all intuitively know that holding on to resentments is like carrying an extra anchor on our back, yet the ego is always right around the corner, encouraging us to hold onto our anger because “look at what they did TO you!!!! “.
It could be a parent, sibling,, former lover, former friend, past teacher….the list is endless. However, if we want to be free, truly be happy in every bone in our body, we have to learn how to forgive.
One of the most powerful tools to use, after we have deeply felt and written about our anger, sadness or frustration over this past event, is to bring compassion into our mind every time we think about this person. Compassion heals. Try to imagine that they truly deserve compassion, as they are 100% human, just like you. Prone to errors, just like you. And like you, they deserve compassion, and maybe even a prayer that at some point in this lifetime , may they find peace. You see, when you think of this situation in this way, you are sharing compassion with yourself as well.
Have compassion next for your struggle to let them go. Have compassion for the part of you that wants them to “pay” for the pain they have caused you. Have compassion for the part of you that may have hurt others in the past as well.
Compassion, for you….for them…heals.
Slow down. Wishing you love and peace, David www.talkdavid.com