We TEACH others, how to TREAT us.

Are you constantly being held up in your daily schedule by a friend or partner who is always late? Do you feel that important people in your life have little respect for your thoughts or beliefs?

Did you know that you have actually taught them that it is OK to disrespect you?

Watch this short video to see what I mean.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rz6f09pO9rE

Slow down, the ball is in your court.

Love, david http://www.davidessel.com

Are we addicted, to chaos and drama in life?

Did you know that many of us in this world today are totally addicted to a life filled with chaos and drama? That what we have become "comfortable" with, is actually amazingly unhealthy?

We seem to shift between long periods of drama with lovers, children, friends and/or co workers, to moments or days of calmness, before we create, yes, create, more drama.

Watch this brief video to see exactly what I am referring to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIbEdFZxtqo

Is it time to slow down, and evaluate life from a different perspective? If we desire, and create a plan, anyone can let go of a life filled with drama, to one that subsists on more peace.

Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com

What is this life for? To Grow. Read on.

WHAT'S THIS LIFE FOR: “Because The Answer Lies In You” I believe one of the best songwriting bands out today is a group called Creed. In their song What's This Life For, the line that always makes me think, states “because the answer lies in you.” Have you ever questioned what your life is really for? If we choose, we have the opportunity to reflect and look deeper at our purpose for being here when we are in despair. Maybe it was at the end of a love relationship. Maybe it was a thought that raced through your mind as you struggled one more time to get out of bed in the morning after another night of abusing alcohol. Or the thoughts of self doubt and frustration that arise when you look in the mirror and admit that your addiction to food is wreaking havoc in your life. If there is any time that we should seriously question, “What's this life for” . . . it is probably right now. Complacency with our existence can also be a sign that we need to question all that we are and all that we can be. Many of us never explore the incredible full potential that we have waiting inside, desiring to be released. I ask you to take a moment today to question your beliefs, to question your existence. It is through the asking of questions that we can break through our issues and problems and start to see that all of the answers we desire truly do reside within. The answers many times come as “feelings.” It just “feels” right to take a certain path of action. We may not know why, but it does. It feels right (if we quietly ask for help, and then listen for our own wisdom to come through) to move . . . to get help . . . to start looking for another job . . . to leave a relationship . . . to go back to Temple . . . or to start selling our numerous possessions or give them away. We must remember that the answers we desire so greatly are all within. Slow down. Sit in silence. Ask for guidance, ask for love. Then follow your heart. If you believe this article can help someone you know, please pass it on. Search. Grow. Love. Love, peace, david http://www.davidessel.com

"Does Life Have To Be This Hard?"

"Does life really have to be this hard...I mean all the time? " My Client, a 40 year old single mom was at the point of breakdown , again.

From financial challenges, to a recent relationship breakup, she wanted a break from the insanity, as she put it.

Her daily schedule was intense, her daily workouts were also intense, as was her desire to find a path without this much struggle.

Her story however, is a very common one. A story currently being played out amongst many of my clients..some very wealthy..some in long term marriages...some single people with no children.

So there is a thread here, a denominator, that we all can learn from.

As the Buddhists say, our suffering is always caused by our desire that life, or someone else, or even ourselves , be different than it, or they, or I am at this moment.

In other words, our inability to accept life on life's terms will always lead to suffering.

"If only my finances were better...if only my body was in better shape..if only I had a better relationship with God...if only my partner was sober...".

I think you get the idea.

So in reality, if we can release from time to time that life should be different than it is at this moment, we'd find a place of peace.

Life does not always have to be hard...but the change in the perception we hold is so much more important than what goes on around us.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com