Why many woman, are attracted to gossip, drama

Did you know that there are actual reasons that explain why so many woman are attracted to a life filled with gossip and drama?

Did you realize that for many, this is how they find what looks to be their "identity " in life?

Enjoy this short video, to see what I mean.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TKE2HwuCRY

There is a different way to live, that offers peace, as well as high self esteem. Let's find it together.

Love, david http://www.davidessel.com

Are we addicted, to chaos and drama in life?

Did you know that many of us in this world today are totally addicted to a life filled with chaos and drama? That what we have become "comfortable" with, is actually amazingly unhealthy?

We seem to shift between long periods of drama with lovers, children, friends and/or co workers, to moments or days of calmness, before we create, yes, create, more drama.

Watch this brief video to see exactly what I am referring to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIbEdFZxtqo

Is it time to slow down, and evaluate life from a different perspective? If we desire, and create a plan, anyone can let go of a life filled with drama, to one that subsists on more peace.

Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com

Tiger Woods: Part 2: Your Comments

Let's look for a voice of reason to go along with all of the negative sensationalism that is currently surrounding Tiger Woods. Here are a few comments relating to my first blog on Tiger.

"I admire Tiger charities, all the magnificent work he has done for children, and the centers are so educational. He is someone with a big heart and HUMAN after all...I hope everything turns out OK in his personal life...You are right sooner or later we all make mistakes and our duties are to improve ourselves and become better people, perhaps the only way we can achieve the improvement is with love and support from others...REJECTION and negativity makes things worse..."

"The media is based on sensationalism, and in this case continuing to bring more information into the public eye will hurt everyone, his wife, families and children even more. Like you said, those around the office gossiping about people like Tiger should look into their own imperfections, and heal themselves first. "


"We are looking into the mirror as we exhaust Tigers errors. Yes, gossip is all about trying to make ourselves feel better, more superior than who we are talking about. you nailed that point."

"You've written before about sex addiction, and I even heard you do a radio show on this topic. You said then that many people caught in affairs are actually battling a sexual addiction, like alcoholism, the drinker cannot stop at one. The analogy here is interesting David. Maybe you could help him heal."

"The answer is to turn off all media reporting on this topic, and to walk away from anyone who wants to discuss it. As you say, Period. "

As I said earlier, it is better that we focus on ourselves, loving each other more, and taking care of our own faults and weaknesses instead of gossiping about others. Forgive yourself for all the errors you've made in life first.

Love, peace, Rev. David http://www.davidessel.com/

Tiger Woods: What to do now? We are like him

So, if you were Tiger Woods, what would you do right now? Did you ever stop to think that you, me , everyone, is identical to him in our lives right now?

There was a famous saying once that went something like..."people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones." Hmmmmmm, or something like that.

Yet, if you're like me, the first thing I want to do when a celebrity goes down for being human, is to say things to feel superior. To throw stones. I do my very best not to do this, yes I do. And just because I'm a minister, trust me, I'm the last person in the world who should be commenting about someone else's errors.

So, how are you right now like Tiger?

What have you done in the past, that you would not want the world to know?

One of the major differences between you and Tiger, is that your life is not on camera 24/7. But if it was, what did you do yesterday, today, last month or 20 years ago that you would NEVER want your friends or co-workers to know about?

Over the past 20 years, I have been blessed to work with many couples that have gone through affairs, some have kept their marriages together, others have not. But not one of them were broad casted on the news. For the most part, they were able to keep their errors within their small community. Can you imagine if your error, was seen on the news?

This writing is all about perspective, love, support of others, and yes, love. You may not agree with what happened, but none of us know the whole story, and it is truly none of our business.

If you want to do something positive right now, pray for Tiger and his family to find the wise council needed to get everyone through this challenging time. Period.

Slow down, be a positive force in this world. Stop the gossip and negativity, and see how we are all more like Tiger, imperfect beings, than separate from him.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Blocking Gossip..Enhancing Your Personal Power

A client that I have worked with for 10 months came to me with excitement in her eyes this week, as she described the personal power she felt when she refused to listen to someone trying to gossip about someone she knew.

"It was amazing how powerful I felt. Normally, if someone says "you're not going to believe what I heard about Jim...."....I'd be all ears! But I know that the work that I'm doing to enhance my confidence just got a huge boost this week, I feel just awesome about me!"

It seems that an acquaintance came to her wanting to give her the inside scoop about the last relationship her friend Jim was in...and what happened that ended his relationship...and the "juice" was heading towards Jim's role in the breakup. The stuff trash magazines are filled with, mainly half truths.

My client has been working diligently on walking away from people who are in love with gossip, or who call her to fill her in on the latest trash talk.

It has not been an easy road, as for 20 years her life was being a part of this talk. But, as she continues to rise above the mediocrity, she's finding a new life, one filled with a new energy, and also some different friends.

"Some people have just fallen away, those who want me to chime in, to listen to this crap, gossip talk. At first it hurt my feelings, but now I see the power in letting gossip go.I feel fantastic about me! "

Slow down.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com www.lifecoachuniverse.com