As the couple sat in front of me asking for the answers to deepen their own levels of intimacy, the only thought that kept running through my mind was “I wonder how much each of these two people really love and accept themselves, as they are right now?” Eventually, as in all sessions, this question presented itself. And their answer was not a shock. “What has this got to do with going deeper with each other?”
The first step to creating a deeper level of true intamcy is the very act of being able to look in a mirror and LOVE what you see. A very difficult action for most of us. But you see, without this, we cannot expect our current or a future partner to love us completely, or be enthralled at the deepest level with who we are. They will simply reflect back to us exactly how we feel about ourselves, even if this is done unconsciously.
Become more intimate with yourself starting today…in all ways possible. Appreciate what you have in life, who you are right now in order to bring more love to you. This is such an old truth, but one we want to skip over. It’s easier to think about plastic surgery, losing weight, or finding a new tool to use to enhance our love, or to find that perfect partner, rather than going to the source and learning to love and accept ourselves more deeply. But as we do, love and intimacy abounds with those currently in our lives, or those who are about to enter it.
Slow down.Take 2 minutes today and simply stare into a mirror, repeat silently to yourself “I love and accept you completely just as your are right now”. Even if it feels uncomfortable, repeat this daily. And watch your world change. Peace, Love, David www.talkdavid.com