Law Abiding Citizens

We never think it will happen to us..the pure..the innocent...the law abiding citizens of Lee County.

Until it does.

After stopping at a drugstore on 41 by Bell Tower Shops at 11.15am, I walked out to get into my car to see another car, in a totally empty lot, parked right next to me. As I walked across the front of my car to reach for the driver side, a woman jumps out of the back seat on the passenger side, and just stares at me.

Shocked, it was so surreal, I just stood there. She mumbles something about people not wanting to give directions, and I see her face is agitated, she's wired to the max..strung out on something. I can feel that jacked energy as I work with people regularly who are trying to beat addictions.

I still don't get the fact, or make the correlation, that she's robbing me, until, she jumps into her car and floors it into reverse.

I then jump in my car and look for my cell phone...gone. My check book, cash, gone.

I jump out of the car and run 5 steps towards her as she hits the gas and screams out of the parking lot.

Still shocked, I give chase to try at least to get her license plate. Now, I'm easily as wired as she is, adrenalin pumping...mad as I could ever imagine.

I come across 3 deputies, tell my story and 2 take off looking for her.

The odds are next to zero the money, $300 cell phone, checkbook, $400 gps system, or day planner with important phone numbers will ever be found.

And 99% of this was an error on my part. For the only time in the past 4 years, 4 years!!!!!, I did not lock my car. I was in the store for 5 minutes max, and violated emotionally and physically.

As an alpha male, a Life Coach, I want justice to be served, jail time served...I want her caught now. Lessons need to be learned.

As a minister and co founder of Church of Spiritual Light, a church right here in Fort Myers, I want her caught too. I want her to get into treatment. I would work with her absolutely for free. I want her in our church this Sunday, joining our service. I want justice served, in a different way.

You see , along with all that she stole from me, to feed her habit, she also took my peanut butter sandwich, and 3 apples. She must be starving.

The hole in an addict, or alcoholics body can never be filled with drugs or alcohol, because the pit is unfillable. You cannot quench the physical urge for the drug, without a powerful program of recovery. . That's why people like this women will do the unthinkable, rob someone in broad daylight, on one of the busiest roads around, to try and get enough money for a fix, or drink.

Heck, housewives do it too, sneak behind their husbands back and hide the money spent on alcohol.

Businessmen do it too, using their business expense accounts to get their fill of drinks each week. And, it's socially acceptable, but still stealing.

So, let's pray that this woman gets into a treatment program in some way..soon.

Thank you for your prayers for her...and please always lock your car doors.

Love, Peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Living a Powerful, Real, Congruent Life

Living a life that truly is powerful, and abundant, is much more than having financial independence...although that can be a beautiful thing.

It's also much more than having a perfect body, although there are great benefits to being in shape.

The number one key to living a powerful, abundant life has to do with the answer to this one question: Are you living congruently?

Living congruently can be described quite simply through this statement:

When your thoughts beliefs and actions are in alignment, you are living a congruent life. Soooo, are you living congruently?

For a very long time, I was not. So I know this topic quite well.

Even though I was an inspirational speaker, and radio/ tv host on the topics of motivation, health and more, I fell into the addiction known as alcoholism.

There was no way I could live congruently as long as I was using alcohol in my life. So, I made the choice to get my life back into alignment, and you can too.

Just keep asking the question, are my thoughts, beliefs and actions about my health, my relationships, my career, my money, sex, food, alcohol, nicotine, spirituality all in alignment????


If they are, rock on. If not, decide today to do what I did, reach out to those around you and ask for help. You will be shocked at how amazing your life can be, when you stop lying to yourself, stop living in denial, and start living congruently.

Life may not turn around perfectly overnight, but the end result is so, so, so well worth it.

Slow Down.
Love, Peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com

Men in Amazing, Intimate Relationships

On a recent Fox tv segment I was asked to share what I thought were the keys that men could follow in order to create powerful, intimate relationships.

Over the past 16 years, I have had the chance to work with both men and their partners on this very topic. In addition to working with hundreds of clients who desired deep intimacy, I also reflected on the changes I have made over the years that have had an impact on the type of relationships I have been in.

Every man who has created deep, powerful, intimate relationships has done so by:

1). Becoming more involved in decision making at home. This may seem mundane, even trivial, but every woman I've worked with has complained that their partners were not involved enough in items like the choice of foods they ate as a family, as well as actually being a part of the planning for weekend trips or annual vacations. When men showed a greater interest in areas of the relationship like these two, women felt more secure, cared for and yes even loved.

2). Healing their relationships with their mother and/or father. Yes, the core relationships with our parents is a key indicator of healthy, deep intimate relationships with the women in men's lives. If men have feelings of resentment, anger or even ongoing jealousy towards their mother or father, their level of intimacy with women may be deeply affected. Forgiveness, towards themselves for holding these resentments, as well as towards their parents, whether they are alive or not, opens their hearts to a deeper capacity to love. And as most of us know, this often is assisted greatly through the help of a therapist, minister or coach.

3). Listen more, talk less. The ability to listen with empathy to their girlfriend or wives fears, dreams, insecurities or concerns without having to offer an answer to anything said, unless their partner specifically asks for an answer, ranks very high on the lists of most women wanting a deeper relationship with their male partner.

4). Begin the process of releasing addictions. Addictions to work.........alcohol.......spending.....nicotine......food......sex.......take men totally away from intimacy. Depth, true depth of love, honesty, empathy and more cannot be accomplished while active in addiction of any kind. The beginning of the surrender of any addiction however can be a huge portal to deeper love.


While there are many more avenues to deeper intimacy for men, this is a beautiful place to start.

Slow Down.

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com

Every Woman is a Goddess, Yet few know this....

" It's True That Every Woman Is A Goddess...It's Just So Sad Few Truly Realize This." David Essel

I have yet to meet a woman in my lifetime who is not an amazing Goddess at heart....inside...yet the above quote says it all....very few women know this and act as if they are.

I wrote a blog on this subject at www.newspress.com and was amazed when I finished it how many women said YES WE ARE!!!!.....yet when I asked them aloud how many of their female friends knew this and lived this way, the response was minuscule in nature.

Women are powerful ,intuitive, compassionate, sensitive, strong , fearless, tender, nurturing..all by nature, it just comes from who they are inside, yet they often live quite differently.

They're fierce when provoked, and soothing when they need to be....they are true beauty in every sense of the word.

When they realize they are a Goddess, they cease the trivial traits associated with many women today..like gossip, being evasive in their thoughts and desires....they instead become these amazing beings who you can't wait to be around.

I am blessed to be surrounded by women who are Goddesses and have no fear being just that.

Women who can look deeply into your eyes....who love their femininity, are proud to have their nails done if this makes THEMSELVES feel special.

One such woman the other day, a former client of mine, came up to me and proudly stated that she's finally loving her body, which had been a source of contention her whole life. Just the way she walked towards me , her posture, her strut, let me know something major had shifted.

She's finally become the Goddess she always had been , only now the whole world can see it.

Slow Down and appreciate the Goddess within if you're a women. If you're a man, it's time we awaken to the God inspired beauty of every women who's on this planet at this very moment, and let them know the inspiration they truly are.

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com

Living Wide Open in Life...Passion

As I review my life's work, my life's path, I like to ask myself regularly...Am I living wide open? Or am I playing life safe. Not taking risks. Not pushing the boundaries of life. Am I thrilled with what I'm about to do today??? Or, is it just another Saturday...or Tues....or whatever.

If the question arises with one of my clients during a session that goes something like this..."You mean it's May already????? Where did April go??"...It either means we are so filled with passion, with life, that the time is flying by in an amazingly good way...or we are so bored with the routine of life that it is slipping by with very little to be excited about.


Now, only you know the answer for you and your life with this question. If you're living wide open, with passion, taking risks, getting out of your comfort zone, breaking the "habit "of living, and replacing it weekly with meeting new people, eating new foods, going to different types of movies, making love in a new position, or with a greater awareness of your lover.....I love that one, don't you??...smile...then you are living wide open.


Today, make a pact to "do" life differently. Pray in a new setting. Workout on a new machine. Read a book you'd normally never pick up. Say hi to a stranger in a store.


Decide today to live life wide open. Not tomorrow, today.

Bring more passion into your life now. Then end result may not always be perfect, or what you expected. It could end up being so, so much better.


It has worked wonders for thousands of my clients, for myself, for my friends. And yes, I want it to work for you too.



Love, Peace. David www.talkdavid.com

Self Acceptance..Through Nudity??????

A client came to me recently perplexed over her inability to accept her body the way it is today. She has been working out regularly, releasing emotional pain from the past, eating healthy, receiving an array of compliments from both men and women…..yet she still only sees a body that is not “worthy “ of acceptance. At least in her mind.

“The compliments are nice , don’t get me wrong I am grateful for them, but I just cannot say I’m pleased at all with what I see. ” Some may say, since her body looks amazing , that she’s suffering from a perceptual disease, an emotional inability to see the reality of what her body really looks like. Since 60% of our population is overweight, she easily falls into the top 40% of Americans in regard to body size.

So I asked her to do 2 tasks for the next 30 days that I knew could have a powerful impact on her self image:

1. To have her boyfriend take photo’s of her body, as it is true that looking in the mirror may not give some people the unbiased reality of what they do look like.

2. To walk around as much as possible in the privacy of her home without any clothes on..yes, in the nude. And, to make sure when she did walk by a mirror, to stop and look for the parts of her body that she DOES like.

The results were amazing. First, as her and her boyfriend sat in front of me with the photo’s, she was amazed at how comfortable she was looking at her body in this detached way…..and how she did appreciate herself from this perspective.

Next, she admitted that while at first walking around her home nude was uncomfortable, and especially stopping and looking at herself in a mirror , after 2 weeks it became a real joy. She danced in the nude, felt free, and actually began appreciating the way she looked. The more she became comfortable seeing herself in the nude, the more she began to love who she was. Now. Not in the future.

Slow Down. Practice self acceptance daily.

Love, Peace, David www.talkdavid.com

Enhancing Daily Productivity……..

If we want to be more successful, happier and more fulfilled in life, we really do need to look at the effectiveness, or ineffectiveness, of thedaily system that we use at work.

Productivity, whether we work out of our house, car or a 100 story office building, is directly tied into the ability to focus. The more we can focus on any given task, the easier it is to move through that task and do it at a very proficient level.

One technique that I have been sharing with all of my business clients, the ability to actually schedule limited times each day to read and respond to email, was highlighted extremely well in the book “4 Hour Work Week ” by Timothy Ferris.

Most of us spend way too much time reading, responding to and filing email every day. Each time we look away from the work at hand to check email, we dilute our effectiveness and our productivity.

So here’s a productivity booster: only read and respond to email 2 times every day, let’s say 9am and 4pm.

For many of us, as we read this, we went automatically into “email withdrawal”.

“Oh no”, screams the American worker, “anything but THAT!!!”

I’m laughing as I write this…TRY it for 30 days and I guarantee an increase in your daily productivity and success. It’s that simple.

Slow Down. Love, David www.talkdavid.com