Friday, December 26, 2008

"Thinking " your way through challenging times

The last few months have been filled with coaching sessions with clients who are facing a variety of challenges.

The loss of a beloved pet.

The loss of employment.

The loss of a relationship.

The loss of a parent.

The loss of a child.

Through all of these challenges a question that has arisen many many times is, "is it possible to think my way through these difficulties?"

The answer is yes, and no.

Yes, we can distract ourselves by thinking of solutions to our challenge, or by finding gratitude for what we DO have that is going well........

But no, this is not the only solution for us to look for.

The other key is to "Feel, deeply feel" the loss that we have recently experienced. Now this is the part of personal growth that a lot of us do not want to look at, for the simple reason that it is hard. It's uncomfortable, which is why it's such a valuable tool to use to help us to heal.

So, when faced with a loss, yes, look for solutions.

Also, go into the fire of the loss and feel the pain, the loneliness, the angst. If you chose, do this with a friend, coach, therapist or minister as well.

There is comfort in numbers.

Slow down to heal.

Love, peace, David Essel.

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