What is the deepest form of sexual intimacy?

Since 1991 we have worked with thousands of couples looking for a way to deepen the sexual connection with their partner, to reach a deeper level of sexual intimacy.

In each and every case, when I explain to them what that will take, they look at me with big , wide eyes.

They at first, are not sure they can do, what it will take to accomplish this goal.

Watch this short video, to see what I mean.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iXQUrMp_KIM

Yes, anyone can go deeper, much deeper , in their sexual and intimate connections, if they so choose to do just a little extra work every day........=)

Love, David http://www.davidessel.com

David Essel Alive: Guests, May 19, Positive Radio

"YES!! Another amazing line up of guests this week for David Essel Alive! America's Positive Radio Show"...... ...Saturdays 6-9pm est, 3-6pm pst.......... XM Radio CH 168.... or listen FREE online at www.davidessel.com . Celebrating 21 years in talk radio:

.....Michelle Duggar- Author: "A Love That Multiplies- An Upclose View of How They Make It Work"

www.duggarfamily.com From "TLC's television show "19 Kids and Counting"....WAIT!!!!! What???? 19 children????..............19?????? Join us as we explore this amazing family, and how the heck they do, what they do.

.....Pamela Bruner: Author- "Tapping Into Ultimate Success: How to Overcome Any Obstacle and Skyrocket Your Results" Pamela became a Millionaire in less that 3 years, by ....ready????...."TAPPING on her head????"..YES, tune in as we explore a powerful, strange, real, life changing technique.

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......Dr. Barbara Keesling - Author: "How to Make Love All Night (and Drive a Woman Wild Male Multiple Orgasm and Other Secrets for Prolonged Lovemaking)

OK men, here is your chance to learn how to make love, from one of America's top sex experts!!!

bkeesling@exchange.fullerton.edu>

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"David is the radiant soul of radio. He is brilliant, insightful and easy to listen to. David makes a real difference in his listeners' lives." ~Mark Victor Hansen, Chicken Soup for the Soul

"DAVID ESSEL"S LOVE TALK LIVE!" RADIO SHOW

" DAVID ESSEL'S LOVE TALK LIVE!" radio show is now ready to rock n roll your world of love! Every Sunday, from 10-11pm est, David will take your love and relationship calls and offer you the "REAL" proven advice to help you move into a better place in life. For more information, visit http://www.wckt.com and read the show description below. Love, peace, David Thursday 08-19-2010 12:05pm ET UPCOMING TOPICS David Essel’s Love Talk Live Radio Show Upcoming Discussion Topics Include: · Pros/ Cons of Internet dating · Divorce ~ Can you do it with class? · Is it time to marry? · How to heal from an affair · Is he/she right for me? · How to talk about sex with your partner · What is sacred sexuality? · Is there sex without kissing? · Dating during a separation? · What about dating in the workplace? · Soul mates… are they real? · How do you know you're even ready to date? · Dealing with former partners · Dating when you have children · And more! RADIO SHOW TESTIMONIALS “David Essel’s destiny is to help you become more alive in every area of your life.” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer "David is THE radiant soul of radio. He is brilliant ,insightful and easy to listen to. David makes a real difference in his listeners’ lives." ~ Mark Victor Hansen, Co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series “The energy and enthusiasm that abounds across the airwaves when David is on my radio show, listeners go directly to the pulse of Passion!” ~ Skylar Stone, Radio Talk Show Host of Romancing with Skylar Stone We will rock America on the airwaves once again with Clear Channel Communications! Love, peace, David http://www.davidessel.com

Sacred Sexuality: Intimacy, Love and More

When I first heard the terms "Sacred Sexuality", I imagined some type of ancient rituals surrounding sex that someone had to learn from a master or guru. Over the years as I delved into this topic more, I have seen firsthand that everyone can reach this exalted state with their partner, if they really want to. And, with little or no training.

Now, if you have the chance to attend workshops on sensuality, tantra, sexual intimacy or more, absolutely do so! But, if you watch this short video, you can literally transform your intimate union with your partner in a very short period of time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ct70rIr5624

Slow down and find the sacredness in your intimate relationship in order to experience the divine in physical form today.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Sensual Intimacy with Your Partner:The Breath

Please enjoy this video as we explore one of the most powerful ways to enhance sensual intimacy, through the beauty of sensual breathing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dquKp3pVE6c



Slow down, breath together.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Lacking The Female Orgasm: Taking Responsibilty

On my last blogtalkradio show, www.blogtalkradio.com/davidessel , I discussed an email that I received from a woman blaming her partner for her lack of reaching an orgasm during their intimate moments. Because this issue has been brought to my attention many times over the years in my work as a Relationship Coach, I wanted to create a space here to help those in a similar situation.

The cause of disappointment in women who do not reach orgasm in their intimate relations lies in one of three causes:

1. ) they do not know their body and it's sensual/sexual needs, or

2.) they have not shared with their partner exactly how they desire/need to be pleased, or

3.) they have in detail on multiple occasions shown their partner how to explicitly please them, but their partner is insensitive to these needs.

If you fall into category 3, which is an extremely rare event in the cases I have worked with but one that many woman feel they are a part of, get into counseling yesterday.

If you fall into category 2, which has a huge fan base it seems as it by far is where almost every woman I have worked with over the years resides, who fail to reach orgasm with their partner, here's great news. This is easily remedied if you want it to be. Unfortunately, many woman say they want to have this part of their relationship fixed, but they do not want to do the work I am about to propose.

The reason for this is that they have a subconscious desire to stay unfulfilled. They are able to wrestle some power from their male partner by being able to say to their close friends that he just can;t please her. Sad, but true.

It also allows her to stay away from the deep , vulnerable intimacy that occurs when a couple is trying to heal sexual issues. If she really wanted to explore her needs, both emotional and physical with a partner, she would have to become fully open, honest and transparent in bed. She would have to direct him, with words and action. If she carries any shame or guilt around sex, she might find this too scary to do. In this case, it's time to get help.

"He should know how to please a woman", is the excuse many make so that they don't have to go deep in intimacy.

If you fall into category 2, please follow this exercise. Write a story to your partner describing how you would love to have your needs , both emotional and physical, met. When it gets to your sexual needs, be highly detailed and explicit. Break all of your previously held notions about what a woman should or should not say about her sexual needs, and just go for it. This should be fun for you to do, and if it is written with love, as in a fantasy/reality world, he should love reading it too. Everyone wins.

Hey women!!! Men cannot read minds!!! Help us out!!

If you fall into category one, begin to explore your body today, by yourself. Get lotions, vibrators and toys to see what different pressure and speeds feel like. When you know what it takes to bring you to an orgasm by yourself, re read the above exercise.

Slow down and explore the wonders of reaching your sexual orgasm with your partner. Drop the blame, and go towards deep love and intimacy today.

Love, peace, Rev. David www.davidessel.com

Emotional Foreplay: A Powerful Sexual Lubricant

If there ever was a powerful sexual lubricant, it has to be emotional foreplay. If done correctly, and consistently, it will get both partners into that amazing intimate zone where the world of passion ignites the flow of sexual and emotional fluids. Put quite simply, emotional foreplay rocks.

So what exactly is emotional foreplay? It's the myriad of actions that helps you connect and get excited about being with your partner. From text messages that say "I love you", to emails, phone calls and yes even a card dropped in the mail for no apparent reason.

Emotional foreplay is to sex what pre- season training is to the athlete. Without it, your season is going nowhere. If we want a relationship to not just last, but to prosper beyond belief, we must put the daily effort into keeping our love alive.

I remember a time when I had left my partner a very loving and explicit voicemail , about how I wanted to hold her, kiss her and yes more that very evening. I went into great detail about how slowly I would kiss her and what would happen the minute I saw her. When I called a few hours later just to say hi, she was totally in that zone of love, of desire, and said how she could not wait to kiss me as well. Hearing her response sent me into the most amazing tailspin, which then increased our desire to be with each other.

Without that initial call, while we would have still had an amazing connection, it could never have gone as deep as it did. To me, this is what intimacy is all about. She told me repeatedly how much she appreciated not just the message, but the very fact that I continued to stay connected even if we were not together.

If a man makes his partner dinner, and surprises her with even the simplest of meals, that's emotional foreplay. If a woman goes out of her way to pick her partner up his favorite coffee without being asked, and swings by his office unannounced with this small gift, that's the glue called emotional foreplay.

It gets our minds, hearts, thoughts and bodies flowing. It's the simple acts that helps to deepen your emotional connection to your partner.

Slow down, and make emotional foreplay, a powerful sexual lubricant, a part of your daily life.

Love, peace, David www.davidessel.com

Sexuality, Intimacy & You Series

Next Date: Oct 23rd, 2009 - Friday 6-8pm

The topic of sexuality and intimacy is one of the most important issues in our lives, and yet for many it's one that is rarely if ever discussed. While we may feel brave to openly discuss our political or religious views, to often we shy away from exploring our intimate and sexual needs and desires.

What does sexuality mean to you? What does it mean to be truly intimate with yourself and/or another? Is it ok to take care of your sexual needs by yourself even if you are currently in a relationship? Can you openly share your sexual desires with your partner, even if they have no interest in fulfilling them? How do you fulfill your partners desires for true intimacy? Do you even know what they are?

And if you're currently single, how do you get your basic human needs for intimacy and sexuality met? Or are you waiting for someone else to meet them? And if you are, is this the healthiest way to live?

Right now, slow down and take a piece of paper and answer the questions asked in this article. See if you truly do know, or have even explored, the importance of this area of your life. Too many clients that I have worked with over the years have neglected to even try to gain insight into their own as well as their partners beliefs about the topics of sexuality and intimacy, and have watched their love fade due to the neglect of needs and desires.

Yes, I am asking you to be open and vulnerable. And yes, it is in this state that the most amazing experiences of life truly exist. Let's all reach this place together.


Join David for a new dynamic 3-hour workshop which covers information that will offer exciting breakthroughs in how we approach sexuality and intimacy as it relates to self love and acceptance, as well as our ability to love others more deeply.

Many of us shy away from talking about our own sexual needs whether we are currently alone or in a relationship with another. David's philosophy revolves around the concept that if we can begin to approach our feelings about sexuality and intimacy more freely, we then can use this newfound awareness to deepen our love of self, something that many people today struggle with deeply.

"Our gift of intimacy is one to cherish, acknowledge and explore if we are to continue our path to living a more aware, awakened life. It's exciting to see a liberated freedom for people who have explored their passion for intimacy, sexuality and love, and how this freedom positively affects every area of their lives."

Cost: $25 per person/per workshop. To Sign up call 941-266-7676 scroll down to pay online.

Workshops hosted at: Church of Spiritual Light, 1939 Park Meadows Drive, Unit 1, Fort Myers, Fl 33907

Next Dates: Join Rev. David Essel for this 3 part series which covers information that will offer exciting breakthroughs in how we approach sexuality and intimacy as it relates to self love and acceptance, as well as our ability to love others more deeply. These are stand alone sessions and you may join at any time.

Topics:
Sept 25 - The Power of Emotional Foreplay 6-8pm ($25)
Oct 23 - The Joy of Physical Foreplay 6-8pm ($25)
Dec 11 - Creating Sacred Sexuality 6-8pm ($25)

Sexuality, Intimacy and You

The topic of sexuality and intimacy is one of the most important issues in our lives, and yet for many it's one that is rarely if ever discussed. While we may feel brave to openly discuss our political or religious views, to often we shy away from exploring our intimate and sexual needs and desires.

What does sexuality mean to you? What does it mean to be truly intimate with yourself and/or another? Is it ok to take care of your sexual needs by yourself even if you are currently in a relationship? Can you openly share your sexual desires with your partner, even if they have no interest in fulfilling them? How do you fulfill your partners desires for true intimacy? Do you even know what they are?

And if you're currently single, how do you get your basic human needs for intimacy and sexuality met? Or are you waiting for someone else to meet them? And if you are, is this the healthiest way to live?

Right now, slow down and take a piece of paper and answer the questions asked in this article. See if you truly do know, or have even explored, the importance of this area of your life. Too many clients that I have worked with over the years have neglected to even try to gain insight into their own as well as their partners beliefs about the topics of sexuality and intimacy, and have watched their love fade due to the neglect of needs and desires.

Yes, I am asking you to be open and vulnerable. And yes, it is in this state that the most amazing experiences of life truly exist. Let's all reach this place together.


Join David for a new dynamic 3-hour workshop which covers information that will offer exciting breakthroughs in how we approach sexuality and intimacy as it relates to self love and acceptance, as well as our ability to love others more deeply.

Many of us shy away from talking about our own sexual needs whether we are currently alone or in a relationship with another. David's philosophy revolves around the concept that if we can begin to approach our feelings about sexuality and intimacy more freely, we then can use this newfound awareness to deepen our love of self, something that many people today struggle with deeply.

"Our gift of intimacy is one to cherish, acknowledge and explore if we are to continue our path to living a more aware, awakened life. It's exciting to see a liberated freedom for people who have explored their passion for intimacy, sexuality and love, and how this freedom positively affects every area of their lives."

Cost: $35 per person. To Sign up call 941-266-7676, or visit http://www.davidessel.com

The Joy of Sex ...Now

As I listen to my clients concerns on a weekly basis, there seems to be an overwhelming loss of connection sexually with many of them and their partners.

Some blame the stress of the economy, others the rising responsibilities of family, school, and the juggling of other activities.

It concerns me greatly when I see a trend like this, as sex, sensuality and the deep intimacy that arises from this between two people is one of the greatest gifts relationships offer.

We hold, kiss, stroke and join in sexual union as to experience the divine and the human in one beautiful dance.

So when this is gone, or diminishes greatly, what are we left with???

Instead of answering that question, I'd rather have you focus on what we have, how deep our relationships can go...when we make sure that physical intimacy of all types.... from the holding of hands in public, to the text just to say hi, to a slow kiss, gazing in your lovers eyes, to the joining, releasing, and then joining again in sexual union ...stays a priority in your life right now.

Slow down.

Create a deeper bond regardless of what's going on in your outer world, by committing today to keep your inner world fulfilled through the regular act of sexual intimacy.

Love, peace, David Essel www.talkdavid.com