Friday, March 27, 2009

Have we all been abandoned in life?

It may surprise many of us to know that in some way, shape or form, we have all been abandoned in life. And the consequences of this act, or acts, if left untreated , are disastrous.

Abandonment can come in many forms. Being left at the altar, let go from a career you enjoy, an affair, losing a home, being cut off from contact with family members, left out of a social group, dumped by a lover, being told as a youngster that you'd be picked up at 3pm...yet no one came till 6pm.

We all face these issues in one form or another , yet if we submerge them, make excuses for someone so as not to face the real pain, we will act those emotions out for the rest of our lives in a variety of ways.

The most damaging in my viewpoint? It's when we have a general distrust of people. Bosses. Lovers. Friends. Ministers. Doctors. Etc, etc, etc.

Write down the times you have been abandoned in life. Face them. Feel them.The pain, the anger, the sadness.

Stare at the page daily until you come to a place where the pain lessons.

Then, write a letter of forgiveness to the person who abandoned you.

Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself, for holding the pain for so long.

Hold the letters, re- read them daily until the event has passed...emotionally.

Work with a therapist or coach....and find that you can experience a new found energy for life, once you let the "abandoned" experience go.

Slow down.

Love, peace, David

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